Apologies if this is in the wrong category.
Advice needed.
I’ve got three kids. Seperated from their mother for nearly two years now. She is growing increasingly narcissistic and controlling. To the point now where she refuses any direct communication, with the threat of reporting me for harassment should I contact her directly, in any form. She is currently either, sending instructions through my mother. Or, sending messages through the children, which I have repeatedly asked her not to do, and it’s at the point where I believe this is having or will have a negative impact on their wellbeing.
I’ve just had a message informing me that the girls have decided they don’t want to come to my house on Boxing Day this year, so that is what is happening, no mention of the rest of Christmas, no discussion. We’ve had a fairly loosely structured pattern for Christmas the last two years.xmas eve and Xmas morning with mum, Xmas afternoon with dad. Xmas night with mum, Boxing Day and the next few days with dad (last Xmas she changed this, at very last minute, because the kids said so)
Has anyone had any experience with similar? Have you been able to de escalate relations to a functioning fair conversation, or is my only option now court to get a fair and consistent arrangement?
Advice needed.
I’ve got three kids. Seperated from their mother for nearly two years now. She is growing increasingly narcissistic and controlling. To the point now where she refuses any direct communication, with the threat of reporting me for harassment should I contact her directly, in any form. She is currently either, sending instructions through my mother. Or, sending messages through the children, which I have repeatedly asked her not to do, and it’s at the point where I believe this is having or will have a negative impact on their wellbeing.
I’ve just had a message informing me that the girls have decided they don’t want to come to my house on Boxing Day this year, so that is what is happening, no mention of the rest of Christmas, no discussion. We’ve had a fairly loosely structured pattern for Christmas the last two years.xmas eve and Xmas morning with mum, Xmas afternoon with dad. Xmas night with mum, Boxing Day and the next few days with dad (last Xmas she changed this, at very last minute, because the kids said so)
Has anyone had any experience with similar? Have you been able to de escalate relations to a functioning fair conversation, or is my only option now court to get a fair and consistent arrangement?