Hello,
I’m a bit concerned here, me and my ex partner have been trying for months to come to some arrangement over our child and everytime we talk it descends into chaos, she wants to control everything. She left our house to move back home closer to family around the end of May, I didn’t stop her and I didn’t stop her taking our child as when she left it was amicable and we had agreed I’d have as much access to my daughter as possible.
Early August I’d informed her that it’s gone too far we can’t amicably come to some resolution so as a courtesy I let her know I’d be instructing a lawyer to handle communication moving forward as we were just not having any productive conversations and there was no resolution in sight, I had to do this for my own mental health, the constant back and forth was affecting every other area of my life, especially work.
Shortly after this, over text message, she had accused me of assaulting her, I denied this over text and she strangely admitted to assaulting me (she did actually assault me on numerous occasions) and an inference that I’d abused our child. Given the allegations, I contacted a lawyer immediately who advised me to ignore the allegations until she formalises those with either social services or the police.
Fast forward to two days ago, I get a call from the local police stating that I’m being asked to come in for a voluntary interview over allegations of controlling behaviour and assault which happened months ago (I’m assuming this alleged incident happened when we were living together), none of this has ever happened, none of this has ever happened when I’ve visited her either.
These allegations have only ever surfaced since I’ve mentioned and acted on having a lawyer handle communication between me and her. In between her leaving our house and it getting to this, I’ve visited my daughter, I’ve stayed over at her new house to spend time with our daughter, we’ve been out to do activities as a “family”, we’ve been to restaurants etc. she’s even allowed me to take our daughter to the park without her supervision. I know these allegations are fake, I know I’ve never done anything to her or my daughter that she is accusing me of.
She had mentioned that she was struggling to find the money to instruct her own lawyer, so I’m sure she’s doing this purely to get legal aid and prevent me from seeing my daughter as I’ve taken control away from her by getting lawyers to negotiate on my behalf.
Given I have evidence via text that she’s admitted very plainly to assaulting me on two occasions, allowed me into her home, allowed me to have unsupervised contact with my child, will any of this go against her with the police? She is also still allowing me to have video calls with my child despite the allegations.
I’m really worried, my mental health is at rock bottom and feel so isolated.
Any advice would be much appreciated, thank you in advance.
I’m a bit concerned here, me and my ex partner have been trying for months to come to some arrangement over our child and everytime we talk it descends into chaos, she wants to control everything. She left our house to move back home closer to family around the end of May, I didn’t stop her and I didn’t stop her taking our child as when she left it was amicable and we had agreed I’d have as much access to my daughter as possible.
Early August I’d informed her that it’s gone too far we can’t amicably come to some resolution so as a courtesy I let her know I’d be instructing a lawyer to handle communication moving forward as we were just not having any productive conversations and there was no resolution in sight, I had to do this for my own mental health, the constant back and forth was affecting every other area of my life, especially work.
Shortly after this, over text message, she had accused me of assaulting her, I denied this over text and she strangely admitted to assaulting me (she did actually assault me on numerous occasions) and an inference that I’d abused our child. Given the allegations, I contacted a lawyer immediately who advised me to ignore the allegations until she formalises those with either social services or the police.
Fast forward to two days ago, I get a call from the local police stating that I’m being asked to come in for a voluntary interview over allegations of controlling behaviour and assault which happened months ago (I’m assuming this alleged incident happened when we were living together), none of this has ever happened, none of this has ever happened when I’ve visited her either.
These allegations have only ever surfaced since I’ve mentioned and acted on having a lawyer handle communication between me and her. In between her leaving our house and it getting to this, I’ve visited my daughter, I’ve stayed over at her new house to spend time with our daughter, we’ve been out to do activities as a “family”, we’ve been to restaurants etc. she’s even allowed me to take our daughter to the park without her supervision. I know these allegations are fake, I know I’ve never done anything to her or my daughter that she is accusing me of.
She had mentioned that she was struggling to find the money to instruct her own lawyer, so I’m sure she’s doing this purely to get legal aid and prevent me from seeing my daughter as I’ve taken control away from her by getting lawyers to negotiate on my behalf.
Given I have evidence via text that she’s admitted very plainly to assaulting me on two occasions, allowed me into her home, allowed me to have unsupervised contact with my child, will any of this go against her with the police? She is also still allowing me to have video calls with my child despite the allegations.
I’m really worried, my mental health is at rock bottom and feel so isolated.
Any advice would be much appreciated, thank you in advance.
