Hi all – I’m looking for some advice on the following.
I have been divorced for 3 years and we have 50/50 shared custody (not set via an order). The children’s mother now wants to agree on a parenting plan, despite the children being 12 and 13 now, I didn’t have an issue with it as it seemed sensible to me albeit, 3 years late.
However, there is a disagreement over communication with the other parent when not in their care. There is no issue with texting or phoning, it’s more to do with face to face contact.
We live close to each other so we will see the children out and about sometimes, the mum wants me to ignore the children if that happens. I’m not to say hello, ask how their day is etc.
In another situation, she will not let the children go and play with school friends because those friends play on my street, therefore increasing the chances of me seeing the children when it’s not my week. If they were to play near my street and needed to pop in for assistance or use the toilet, I don’t see that as an issue. She does.
If I flip it, she’s essentially saying she doesn’t want to see her children when not in her care, whether they need assistance or not.
The reason being, she works more hours than me so the opportunity for the boys to pop to hers ad hoc if required is less than for them to pop to me. She also says, it harms the relationship with the parent the children are with that week yet I see no evidence of that.
So that’s a sticking point, has anyone failed to agree on a parenting plan for this type of reason and it ended up going to court for a child arrangements order? If so, would the court see her point of view as being unreasonable especially since that type of contact has been in place for 3 years and there is no safeguarding issue?
The linked issue I have is she is hinting that unless I agree to her plan, she will rescind her permission for me to take the children abroad this year in July. She has no valid reason to deny the holiday.
I have read https://dadswithkids.co.uk/ams/holi...to-prevent-you-taking-the-kids-on-holiday.13/ which is useful but having looked at applying for a specific issues order, to get permission to continue with the holiday, the GOV website doesn’t make sense, I see no option to request an urgent hearing and MIAM isn’t an option as she wont go or wont change her stance and the holiday isn’t too far away.
Any advice on that issue too is appreciated.
I have been divorced for 3 years and we have 50/50 shared custody (not set via an order). The children’s mother now wants to agree on a parenting plan, despite the children being 12 and 13 now, I didn’t have an issue with it as it seemed sensible to me albeit, 3 years late.
However, there is a disagreement over communication with the other parent when not in their care. There is no issue with texting or phoning, it’s more to do with face to face contact.
We live close to each other so we will see the children out and about sometimes, the mum wants me to ignore the children if that happens. I’m not to say hello, ask how their day is etc.
In another situation, she will not let the children go and play with school friends because those friends play on my street, therefore increasing the chances of me seeing the children when it’s not my week. If they were to play near my street and needed to pop in for assistance or use the toilet, I don’t see that as an issue. She does.
If I flip it, she’s essentially saying she doesn’t want to see her children when not in her care, whether they need assistance or not.
The reason being, she works more hours than me so the opportunity for the boys to pop to hers ad hoc if required is less than for them to pop to me. She also says, it harms the relationship with the parent the children are with that week yet I see no evidence of that.
So that’s a sticking point, has anyone failed to agree on a parenting plan for this type of reason and it ended up going to court for a child arrangements order? If so, would the court see her point of view as being unreasonable especially since that type of contact has been in place for 3 years and there is no safeguarding issue?
The linked issue I have is she is hinting that unless I agree to her plan, she will rescind her permission for me to take the children abroad this year in July. She has no valid reason to deny the holiday.
I have read https://dadswithkids.co.uk/ams/holi...to-prevent-you-taking-the-kids-on-holiday.13/ which is useful but having looked at applying for a specific issues order, to get permission to continue with the holiday, the GOV website doesn’t make sense, I see no option to request an urgent hearing and MIAM isn’t an option as she wont go or wont change her stance and the holiday isn’t too far away.
Any advice on that issue too is appreciated.