Overseas and UK holidays with my daughter.

[jtcm0]

Good morning all,

It's been nearly 2 years since I started seeing my daughter again ( after taking my ex to court for access) and it's been 4 months since I've started having every other weekend (Saturday morning till Sunday afternoon) I really want to take a holiday with my daughter initially just in the UK and when shes older overseas my ex has already taken our daughter to turkey when she was 1 and a half ish My ex knows I've every right to do this but she is dragging her heels about it. I've agreed to increase the weekends to simulate a holiday to begin with. Although my ex is again dragging her heels on that as well. Even in court the second time the judge said that "you are on the birth certificate so you have every right to take her on holiday" however there's no sign from my ex that she is going to start increasing the weekend to accommodate a holiday. I brought it up during pick up this weekend just gone and she seemed open to it but 3 hours after drop off yesterday she sent messages claiming our 2 and a half year old was very "emotional and spiteful" and claiming it was because she'd spent the weekend with me and didn't have a nap on the day of drop off I explained to my ex that our daughter woke up at 9.45 am and as such she didnt want or need a nap. So what do I do about holidays? As you can see the court is unlikely to help and my ex will do and say everything in her power to stop holidays. Any advice would be great. Thank you

 

[JayMC]

You can take her on holiday in the UK as you wish.

Abroad is more tricky as you will require her passport.

 

[jtcm0]

The issue I have with uk holidays is currently i have every other weekend Saturday till Sunday. Which is only 2 days so generally not enough time to travel anywhere and my ex is very very strict on drop off times for example if im ever more than 10 late she'll start saying that i wont see my daughter next weekend and has even threatened to phone police even tho i know they wouldnt do anything and Monday and Tuesday our daughter is at nursery which is why I've suggested that I could pick her up on a Wednesday before my weekend and then bring her back on the Sunday as I would on the usual weekends but my ex is declining this currently. So I don't really know how I could take her on a holiday in the UK.

You can take her on holiday in the UK as you wish.

Abroad is more tricky as you will require

 

[JayMC]

Did your court order not specify how holidays would work?

 

[jtcm0]

Did your court order not specify how holidays would work?

Nope, it says something like anyone named in the court order (myself and my ex) can take the child out the country for a maximum of 28 days as I believe is standard. Although with that court order it didn't give me parent responsibility ( I got PR about a year after) but nothing specifically regarding holidays.

The court order we have was basically me getting access and the courts granted contact centre for 8 weeks then in the community for up to 3 hours and that 3 hours to increase with my daughters "pace and development" and as you can imagine it's my ex that decides the "pace and development" it's been a slow road but in October last year my ex finally "allowed" over night...not before insinuating some horrific things (including the fact she was worried about "rape abuse and neglect" regarding our daughter) but overall nothing about uk holidays.