Hi
First time looking for help about this... any advice much appreciated because I'm feeling pretty broken right now!
I am trying to get out of a toxic relationship.
Ex is abusive in so many way, but makes out it I am the abuser. Only tells people of my reactions to her disturbing behaviour and constantly calling the police making false accusations. Police response is appalling. As a man, I have a different set of rules applied to me. The first couple times it is frustrating, but when it has happened 20 times, it really messes with your head.
My ex applied for an Occupation Order when I was in hospital. Application full of lies and it was granted without me having an opportunity to respond. Several months later, final hearing has taken place. They said they found no fault, but it is clear we cannot live together, so they kept the order in place.
She took all the money from the joint account, over £20k and left me having to take out a £15k loan to pay for work related to our business that was already committed to and that the £20k was supposed to cover. Other bills coming in regularly. I have no cash, no home, behind on payments and now demands for CMS payments. I can get Legal Aid, but can't afford the large contributions. She bought brand new car with our joint money and telling everyone she has no money and I'm not contributing anything for kids.
Two issues I would like advice on please:
1. I'm asking to see kids and she is ignoring requests. What is my best hope in sorting this when can't afford solicitors?
2. Occupation Order says I can collect belongings with agreement, but she is ignoring my requests. I see her dad has been selling off my stuff - police just said it's marital assets so they can't do anything. If I started selling her clothes (bought with marital money), I'm sure they would arrest me... one rule for me, one for her. How do I apply to court for help with arranging collection for my belongings? Is there a certain form? Court order says "personal belongings"... what items will qualify?
Thank you
Tony
First time looking for help about this... any advice much appreciated because I'm feeling pretty broken right now!
I am trying to get out of a toxic relationship.
Ex is abusive in so many way, but makes out it I am the abuser. Only tells people of my reactions to her disturbing behaviour and constantly calling the police making false accusations. Police response is appalling. As a man, I have a different set of rules applied to me. The first couple times it is frustrating, but when it has happened 20 times, it really messes with your head.
My ex applied for an Occupation Order when I was in hospital. Application full of lies and it was granted without me having an opportunity to respond. Several months later, final hearing has taken place. They said they found no fault, but it is clear we cannot live together, so they kept the order in place.
She took all the money from the joint account, over £20k and left me having to take out a £15k loan to pay for work related to our business that was already committed to and that the £20k was supposed to cover. Other bills coming in regularly. I have no cash, no home, behind on payments and now demands for CMS payments. I can get Legal Aid, but can't afford the large contributions. She bought brand new car with our joint money and telling everyone she has no money and I'm not contributing anything for kids.
Two issues I would like advice on please:
1. I'm asking to see kids and she is ignoring requests. What is my best hope in sorting this when can't afford solicitors?
2. Occupation Order says I can collect belongings with agreement, but she is ignoring my requests. I see her dad has been selling off my stuff - police just said it's marital assets so they can't do anything. If I started selling her clothes (bought with marital money), I'm sure they would arrest me... one rule for me, one for her. How do I apply to court for help with arranging collection for my belongings? Is there a certain form? Court order says "personal belongings"... what items will qualify?
Thank you
Tony