Hi
I’m new here so will do my best to explain my situation. I’m 42 & have already raised 6 children aged 16-25 to my ex partner/wife for 24 years, (we got together aged 15) me & my ex wife separated around 3 years ago. a good few months later I started seeing someone else all was fine until she started entertaining her other kids dad after a few months so I backed away but she had fell pregnant to me so he went & I was back again ( then around 6 months pregnant she entertained him again) I forgave her because I was so emotionally invested in our child she was carrying (which she knew I was) then 3 weeks after birth she left me fully for her ex again so I walked away & asked if we could make arrangements for me to see our child on set days/times etc but was blocked & ignored. I had to sit back & see her him & our child together & couldn’t even do anything about it so I thought ill give her some space & see if things change before applying to court for a contact order. After around 6 weeks her ex was gone again (me & the ex live 1 min walk from each other) so 1 night I come out of a good friends house (female) but just friends at the time & gets in my car it was raining lightly so put the wipers on but they was gone snapped off the car & my tyres all slashed & nail varnish all over the body work (golf R as well) I didn’t even have time to think who would do that to me & my phone txt it was my ex saying she’s seen my car outside the women’s house & hopes im happy with myself, fast forward a few weeks later & I started to take this female friend of mine out for food etc I’d left my work van outside her house & when we come back my ex was hiding in the bushes & my van had been vandalised (mirrors smashed off wipers snapped spray painted with my child’s name on the side locks glued & window screen smashed) she then tried to attack the women I started seeing telling her she wants a fight etc,(she phoned the police on my ex) they came & arrested her for criminal damage & harassment ( she been texting the women I started seeing & phoning her 100s of times being aggressive and abusive) she was given bail conditions not to come near after being released (me & the women I started seeing didn’t press charges) are days later my ex is arrested again for going to the local shops armed with a knife & kicked to shop door open where her other kids dad was having his haircut & tried to stab him then attacked his car outside the shop & was arrested again, a few days later she’s at his house causing more grief & was arrested again, it was Christmas week so I dropped our child’s presents off on her doorstep (his 1st Christmas) then she got in touch & started begging for me back saying she loves me still & asking me to marry her etc ( I said no & let her down as gently as possible not that she deserved it) so for several months more I’ve had more begging for me back threats aggressive outbursts in public etc from her because I won’t go back to her & I’ve asked for days & times to see our child but she says I can see him when & where she says & says I have to bond with him before she allows me days & times ( I said no because of the conflict that would be around our child) she’s since been arrested again for attacking her other kids dad in public ( yes he keeps going back to her & then leaving) when he’s there I don’t get any communication but when he’s gone she’s back at it again this time she’s gone & superglued my partners brand new car worth over 40k my partner yet again has phoned the police & she’s about to e arrested yet again, I went to the local shops today & seen my ex with our child I tried to get in my van without her seeing me but she did & started to shout things like she won’t be going to court & a few other things I just put my window down & said see you next month ( that’s when the court date is) it’s only took 5 weeks from filling in the C100 to getting a court date, I have a caffcass phone call next week & believe she may also have one, after her confrontation on the local shops today I got a text off her friend saying my ex was there upset & that I was intimidating her ( hand on my heart I honestly didn’t raise my voice or say anything other than see you next month) but her friend is saying she’s going to be telling caffcass & the family court that I have been intimidating her, sorry for the long post I just wanted to give a clear as possible explanation. So my question is will they believe her or will they no about her ( I have a clean record) what if she doesn’t turn up, is there anything she can do to stop me getting access.
Thank you so much for reading & thanks in advance for any advice given
I’m new here so will do my best to explain my situation. I’m 42 & have already raised 6 children aged 16-25 to my ex partner/wife for 24 years, (we got together aged 15) me & my ex wife separated around 3 years ago. a good few months later I started seeing someone else all was fine until she started entertaining her other kids dad after a few months so I backed away but she had fell pregnant to me so he went & I was back again ( then around 6 months pregnant she entertained him again) I forgave her because I was so emotionally invested in our child she was carrying (which she knew I was) then 3 weeks after birth she left me fully for her ex again so I walked away & asked if we could make arrangements for me to see our child on set days/times etc but was blocked & ignored. I had to sit back & see her him & our child together & couldn’t even do anything about it so I thought ill give her some space & see if things change before applying to court for a contact order. After around 6 weeks her ex was gone again (me & the ex live 1 min walk from each other) so 1 night I come out of a good friends house (female) but just friends at the time & gets in my car it was raining lightly so put the wipers on but they was gone snapped off the car & my tyres all slashed & nail varnish all over the body work (golf R as well) I didn’t even have time to think who would do that to me & my phone txt it was my ex saying she’s seen my car outside the women’s house & hopes im happy with myself, fast forward a few weeks later & I started to take this female friend of mine out for food etc I’d left my work van outside her house & when we come back my ex was hiding in the bushes & my van had been vandalised (mirrors smashed off wipers snapped spray painted with my child’s name on the side locks glued & window screen smashed) she then tried to attack the women I started seeing telling her she wants a fight etc,(she phoned the police on my ex) they came & arrested her for criminal damage & harassment ( she been texting the women I started seeing & phoning her 100s of times being aggressive and abusive) she was given bail conditions not to come near after being released (me & the women I started seeing didn’t press charges) are days later my ex is arrested again for going to the local shops armed with a knife & kicked to shop door open where her other kids dad was having his haircut & tried to stab him then attacked his car outside the shop & was arrested again, a few days later she’s at his house causing more grief & was arrested again, it was Christmas week so I dropped our child’s presents off on her doorstep (his 1st Christmas) then she got in touch & started begging for me back saying she loves me still & asking me to marry her etc ( I said no & let her down as gently as possible not that she deserved it) so for several months more I’ve had more begging for me back threats aggressive outbursts in public etc from her because I won’t go back to her & I’ve asked for days & times to see our child but she says I can see him when & where she says & says I have to bond with him before she allows me days & times ( I said no because of the conflict that would be around our child) she’s since been arrested again for attacking her other kids dad in public ( yes he keeps going back to her & then leaving) when he’s there I don’t get any communication but when he’s gone she’s back at it again this time she’s gone & superglued my partners brand new car worth over 40k my partner yet again has phoned the police & she’s about to e arrested yet again, I went to the local shops today & seen my ex with our child I tried to get in my van without her seeing me but she did & started to shout things like she won’t be going to court & a few other things I just put my window down & said see you next month ( that’s when the court date is) it’s only took 5 weeks from filling in the C100 to getting a court date, I have a caffcass phone call next week & believe she may also have one, after her confrontation on the local shops today I got a text off her friend saying my ex was there upset & that I was intimidating her ( hand on my heart I honestly didn’t raise my voice or say anything other than see you next month) but her friend is saying she’s going to be telling caffcass & the family court that I have been intimidating her, sorry for the long post I just wanted to give a clear as possible explanation. So my question is will they believe her or will they no about her ( I have a clean record) what if she doesn’t turn up, is there anything she can do to stop me getting access.
Thank you so much for reading & thanks in advance for any advice given