Currently on 2nd round of marriage therapy within 2 years, it's not going well. Genuinely sad about it all, we have 2 beautiful sons under school age and there's just so much in my wifes behaviour that could be fixed but she refuses to. I feel she's got traumas from her family growing up and is basically an avoidant. Me and the therapists almost tear our hair out over her lack of participation in trying to save the marriage.
We live in a house we'd need to sell should we split. I have a mate who's agreed to put me up for a while if needed, she would go back to her mums.
Any advice on these very early days of the whole process? I think we'll carry on with Christmas as normal and break after. It's been 10 years, I'm 42. There's no one else etc.. just feel we've exhausted everything with 2 long years and multiple therapy sessions (the current one we've been doing for 3 months and still going).
I've looked up Octopus Amicable which offers a service I think is suitable for about £3500 which seems to cover everything? Has anyone else used them, or would a normal solicitor be advised? I'm so worried about it ending up in a war, I have zero interest in that. I want some money sure, but I'm obviously prepared to concede a far higher portion due to her having the young kids. I don't even have a clue about the number of days I'd have them etc.. I would want to be involved as much as possible.
I work full time, currently wife doesn't work and hasn't for almost 3 years since the children arrived.
We live in a house we'd need to sell should we split. I have a mate who's agreed to put me up for a while if needed, she would go back to her mums.
Any advice on these very early days of the whole process? I think we'll carry on with Christmas as normal and break after. It's been 10 years, I'm 42. There's no one else etc.. just feel we've exhausted everything with 2 long years and multiple therapy sessions (the current one we've been doing for 3 months and still going).
I've looked up Octopus Amicable which offers a service I think is suitable for about £3500 which seems to cover everything? Has anyone else used them, or would a normal solicitor be advised? I'm so worried about it ending up in a war, I have zero interest in that. I want some money sure, but I'm obviously prepared to concede a far higher portion due to her having the young kids. I don't even have a clue about the number of days I'd have them etc.. I would want to be involved as much as possible.
I work full time, currently wife doesn't work and hasn't for almost 3 years since the children arrived.