Hi
I have been thinking about posting on here for a little while, but never seem to get round to it. Partly because I think that my situation is relatively lucky compared to a lot of Dad's on this site.
Very briefly, about 2 years ago, by wife blindsided me with a divorce request. She wanted to be with one of the dads at our kids' school. In the time leading up to this I had gone through a stressful career change. We have 2 boys, 7yo and 4yo. She has recently had a baby with the man she left me for.
I get to see the boys a lot.
The things that stress me out, are the fact that I sometimes just really struggle to get into the mindset of being dad. Particularly after a long week at work. My career change has massively improved by enjoyment of work, but a long commute means I am out of the house at least 11 hours a day 5 days a week. Sometimes I just really struggle to switch on "being dad" at the weekend. I am a quiet person in general. Recently my boys have been fighting a lot more and I find the noise really stresses me out. I often wear ear plugs. Sometimes by the end of a weekend with them I just feel so drained. When I am out and about with the boys I sometimes feel so sad, inevitably seeing happy families where mum and Dad are still together. I do feel like I have a good relationship with my kids, but I just sometimes find it so draining. I get to the end of a weekend looking after them by myself and just feel exhausted. I don't get any help from my parents (mum suffering from significant mental illness)
Anyway. As I say, I know lot of dad's are in much worse situation.
Just Sharing.
O.
I have been thinking about posting on here for a little while, but never seem to get round to it. Partly because I think that my situation is relatively lucky compared to a lot of Dad's on this site.
Very briefly, about 2 years ago, by wife blindsided me with a divorce request. She wanted to be with one of the dads at our kids' school. In the time leading up to this I had gone through a stressful career change. We have 2 boys, 7yo and 4yo. She has recently had a baby with the man she left me for.
I get to see the boys a lot.
The things that stress me out, are the fact that I sometimes just really struggle to get into the mindset of being dad. Particularly after a long week at work. My career change has massively improved by enjoyment of work, but a long commute means I am out of the house at least 11 hours a day 5 days a week. Sometimes I just really struggle to switch on "being dad" at the weekend. I am a quiet person in general. Recently my boys have been fighting a lot more and I find the noise really stresses me out. I often wear ear plugs. Sometimes by the end of a weekend with them I just feel so drained. When I am out and about with the boys I sometimes feel so sad, inevitably seeing happy families where mum and Dad are still together. I do feel like I have a good relationship with my kids, but I just sometimes find it so draining. I get to the end of a weekend looking after them by myself and just feel exhausted. I don't get any help from my parents (mum suffering from significant mental illness)
Anyway. As I say, I know lot of dad's are in much worse situation.
Just Sharing.
O.