My appalling Final hearing left me devestated

[Peanut 21]

As Arnie said in Predator...... "This is bullshit, all off it...... you cooked up a story and dumped us into the meat grinder" true

I'd love it if someone put that in their position statement or said it during a hearing.
I'm not making light of the situation but we've got to find dark humour in this madness.

 

[Ethanlee014]

Ok so sharing an order with the school is one thing - that's usually accepted. It doesn't take away that you still have PR and are entitled to reports, letters and updates etc. Sharing the Cafcass report I am sure isn't allowed.

You don't need to use a solicitor to appeal - you can do it yourself with some help on here. Another Dad on here did it and got a much better order after being left with supervised only indefinitely! I had never done one before, but we did his paperwork between us so I'm more familiar with the process now.

If you possibly can, then using a barrister for the appeal hearing would really help - but you don't need a solicitor. Don't be intimidated by it - you're entitled to appeal - and whatever the outcome it can't be worse than you have now.

Thanks Ash, I have the appeal filled out. I’m looking at the skeleton argument and looking into case law currently. This is all prep as I don’t yet have the order in my hands to check everything.
I will see about direct access barrister costs as well.
I take it anyway. As with anything family court there is a long wait before any action is taken after the appeal is submitted?

I thought it might have hit home more now and I would feel better and more accepting, but I’m finding I’m feeling worse every day. Like severe catastrophising about no ability to progress things. I haven’t felt like doing anything I normally would, I would go to the gym everyday and haven’t been since Weds at all, I feel sick and really despondent.

 

[Peanut 21]

I thought it might have hit home more now and I would feel better and more accepting, but I’m finding I’m feeling worse every day. Like severe catastrophising about no ability to progress things. I haven’t felt like doing anything I normally would, I would go to the gym everyday and haven’t been since Wed

I think most people on here have felt this way.
It's the lack of control and madness of the situation.
You need to put plans in place for what you can control.
You can control what you eat. How you exercise. Socialising if you're up to it. Potentially finding a therapist. One who deals with grief would be good. Someone doesn't have to die to feel grief. It can be any type of loss.
If you can, force yourself to go to the gym. It won't make the problem go away but this is time to really start looking after yourself physically and mentally.
Like many dads before you, you can do this. You're stronger than you realise.