Hi all, I haven’t posted before but my final hearing was appalling.
My son’s wishes and feelings were taking into consideration which I was fine with and understood. He is important and it’s him I want things to work for.
It’s a long story and changes throughout and a ex that changed her story every time, through in difficulties all over the place with a final shock of an adoption.
Cafcass had a recommendation whilst which I wasn’t thrilled with every other Saturday in their location and 4 times a year they would come to me however as it was also my sons wishes I was happy to go with that.
The Cafcass officer at beginning of proceedings said that was her recommendation and no changes, when then questioned she started to become “fluffy” and non committal, saying communication needs to be better even though she also stated it needed limiting! That my son didn’t need the four times with me as no optimal number!
That mum should be seen to promote contact when mum openly wrote in her statement she refuses it and doesn’t want to do it and won’t!
She also had previously stopped contact. There are no health, welfare or safeguarding issues with me either.
The court then awarded every other Saturday no holidays, no other contact apart from two days my ex is expected to bring him to me to be decided.
All left open and ambiguous with someone that openly states she won’t comply or do the travel.
I am devastated, I am in shock and I feel that this is the biggest let down and waste of time ever.
I will never walk away from my son however I feel devastated from going to every other full weekend and half the holidays to just 26 days a year.
Not even any ability to do anything about it. Court orders are a waste of time and the court process is really a joke. Walking out with less than what Cafcass even put in their report is just gobsmacking and my son now has just a visitor every other Saturday in his life, not a dad.
My son’s wishes and feelings were taking into consideration which I was fine with and understood. He is important and it’s him I want things to work for.
It’s a long story and changes throughout and a ex that changed her story every time, through in difficulties all over the place with a final shock of an adoption.
Cafcass had a recommendation whilst which I wasn’t thrilled with every other Saturday in their location and 4 times a year they would come to me however as it was also my sons wishes I was happy to go with that.
The Cafcass officer at beginning of proceedings said that was her recommendation and no changes, when then questioned she started to become “fluffy” and non committal, saying communication needs to be better even though she also stated it needed limiting! That my son didn’t need the four times with me as no optimal number!
That mum should be seen to promote contact when mum openly wrote in her statement she refuses it and doesn’t want to do it and won’t!
She also had previously stopped contact. There are no health, welfare or safeguarding issues with me either.
The court then awarded every other Saturday no holidays, no other contact apart from two days my ex is expected to bring him to me to be decided.
All left open and ambiguous with someone that openly states she won’t comply or do the travel.
I am devastated, I am in shock and I feel that this is the biggest let down and waste of time ever.
I will never walk away from my son however I feel devastated from going to every other full weekend and half the holidays to just 26 days a year.
Not even any ability to do anything about it. Court orders are a waste of time and the court process is really a joke. Walking out with less than what Cafcass even put in their report is just gobsmacking and my son now has just a visitor every other Saturday in his life, not a dad.
