My son resides with his mother and her partner. His mum and I are separated and I now reside in a different county 3 hours away.
I was informed on Saturday (2nd July), during my regular fortnightly visit, that his Mum’s partner had been accused of some form of sexual activity with a minor.
I took my son to the police station (Ref:204) and explained what I’d been told and expressed my concerns around him returning home whilst his Mum’s boyfriend was still in the house (she had kicked him out but allowed him to return).
The police called the duty social services line and advised that I should speak to his mum and explain that I wouldn’t be taking him back. I did that and he returned home with me. He is now in my care and completely safe from any threat that may have existed within the home where he resided with his mother.
He has expressed his desire to stay with me indefinitely. However, his mother is calling and texting multiple times a day trying to coerce him back to her home. Having to experience this salvo of calls and messages from her is causing him further distress.
I have spoken to social services myself since the incident. Basically, he’s classed as safe with me…it’s up to me where he resides. Only way mum could change it is through the court, likewise if I want to ensure it’s concrete, again through the court.
I’m seeking guidance on the best course of action to take at this point. I can’t risk sending him back and in any event he doesn’t want to go he wants to stay with me. He obviously has a school he attends and I need to get him into a school local to me as soon as possible. Moreover, since the original accusation was made against his mums partner, it has come to light that this wasn’t the first instance of its kind and that he has been caught in communication, using dialog of a sexual nature, with other minors in the past.
My greatest concern is that I let her see him and she doesn’t bring him back, do I need the the courts protection? If so, how do I go about it?
I was informed on Saturday (2nd July), during my regular fortnightly visit, that his Mum’s partner had been accused of some form of sexual activity with a minor.
I took my son to the police station (Ref:204) and explained what I’d been told and expressed my concerns around him returning home whilst his Mum’s boyfriend was still in the house (she had kicked him out but allowed him to return).
The police called the duty social services line and advised that I should speak to his mum and explain that I wouldn’t be taking him back. I did that and he returned home with me. He is now in my care and completely safe from any threat that may have existed within the home where he resided with his mother.
He has expressed his desire to stay with me indefinitely. However, his mother is calling and texting multiple times a day trying to coerce him back to her home. Having to experience this salvo of calls and messages from her is causing him further distress.
I have spoken to social services myself since the incident. Basically, he’s classed as safe with me…it’s up to me where he resides. Only way mum could change it is through the court, likewise if I want to ensure it’s concrete, again through the court.
I’m seeking guidance on the best course of action to take at this point. I can’t risk sending him back and in any event he doesn’t want to go he wants to stay with me. He obviously has a school he attends and I need to get him into a school local to me as soon as possible. Moreover, since the original accusation was made against his mums partner, it has come to light that this wasn’t the first instance of its kind and that he has been caught in communication, using dialog of a sexual nature, with other minors in the past.
My greatest concern is that I let her see him and she doesn’t bring him back, do I need the the courts protection? If so, how do I go about it?