Hi all
So, me and ex have been separated for approx 2 years. I moved to my parents house. We have 2 kids, now 6 and 12. I have been having kids Friday to Sunday every weekend and half of all school holidays. I was paying all bills and mortgage up until about 1 year a go and now only pay the mortgage. We've attended MIAM (for over 1.5 years) and we haven't come to an agreement over children's residency and finances. We have 2 properties and she also has a business so finances have been complex but we did do a full form e disclosure during MIAM. Now, it's come to a point where she is now involving solicitors. I also now have a solicitor. I have asked for equal living with parents. She hasn't agreed and wants to cut my access to every other weekend. Want to keep this short but also want to stress, I am an active father and always have been since their births. I dedicate every minute of the day when I have them ensuring homework is done and also doing many other extra curricular activities. The kids love spending time with me and have been vocal about it too. I think the ex has started to become malicious when she suspected I might have a new girlfriend.
Anyway, I need to pay for solicitor fees and the mortgage an debt we have restricts me from doing so. I called our mortgage company and explained situation and they ssid they can give us a mortgage holiday for a few months without affecting our credit. Great. However, my ex has to agree. Which she didn't. When I messaged her she didn't reply and the following day I received a letter from her solicitor saying she doesn't agree with the mortgage holiday.
Now my question is, shall I stop paying the mortgage so I can pay for solicitor fees and a high possibility of court fees for child arrangements order? I have no other way of funding it unless free up some debt (mortgage is £1900/month)
At this point I don't care if I have a missed payment.
So, me and ex have been separated for approx 2 years. I moved to my parents house. We have 2 kids, now 6 and 12. I have been having kids Friday to Sunday every weekend and half of all school holidays. I was paying all bills and mortgage up until about 1 year a go and now only pay the mortgage. We've attended MIAM (for over 1.5 years) and we haven't come to an agreement over children's residency and finances. We have 2 properties and she also has a business so finances have been complex but we did do a full form e disclosure during MIAM. Now, it's come to a point where she is now involving solicitors. I also now have a solicitor. I have asked for equal living with parents. She hasn't agreed and wants to cut my access to every other weekend. Want to keep this short but also want to stress, I am an active father and always have been since their births. I dedicate every minute of the day when I have them ensuring homework is done and also doing many other extra curricular activities. The kids love spending time with me and have been vocal about it too. I think the ex has started to become malicious when she suspected I might have a new girlfriend.
Anyway, I need to pay for solicitor fees and the mortgage an debt we have restricts me from doing so. I called our mortgage company and explained situation and they ssid they can give us a mortgage holiday for a few months without affecting our credit. Great. However, my ex has to agree. Which she didn't. When I messaged her she didn't reply and the following day I received a letter from her solicitor saying she doesn't agree with the mortgage holiday.
Now my question is, shall I stop paying the mortgage so I can pay for solicitor fees and a high possibility of court fees for child arrangements order? I have no other way of funding it unless free up some debt (mortgage is £1900/month)
At this point I don't care if I have a missed payment.