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Mediation cost

Ash said:
Attempts to seek suggests you have a MIAM. You send the ex a message saying you have commenced mediation and she will be invited to attend and will hear from the mediator in this regard. The mediator contacts the ex to ask her to attend. The Mother doesn't attend and you get signed off.

You then have the email to prove you attempted to seek mediation - not that you can submit that as evidence with a C100 but you can say you started mediation and the Mother was invited by both you and the mediator, in writing, but declined to attend. Then it shows you tried. And you'll be believed because you can prove it as and when evidence can be shown and she can't prove otherwise.

But - if the Mother does attend - and the first session is bad (as expected) - a mediator might then say they want you to try three sessions. As you say she isn't going to want to spend the money. She might do what mine used to do "yes I'll go to mediation if you pay for it".
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Jeez, I hope it doesn't go that far, I can't afford 3 sessions and I'm going to have to pay for them upfront before the voucher money arrives!
 
The joke of it is, even if the ex showed up for mediation, there's no budging from these types of personalities. You take 2 steps forward and they take 20 back.
 
Exactly how I feel and 20 steps back is precisely v what will keep happening until her power to prevent time spent with me is curbed.
 
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I guess all you can do is prove you've tried but the ex is proving difficult.
As people have said to me over the years, give them enough rope and they'll eventually hang themselves.
Your situation sounds similar to my partners in that the agro starts before/after school holiday time with dad.

I think courts are suggesting mediation when they normally wouldn't because they're so busy. The fact they're so busy shows how many messed up people there are out there.
 
I'm giving her all the rope she wants!

She's kind of backed herself into a corner already asks I'm sure she'll continue to do so.

She obstructed time spent and blocked Whatsapp - time spent and on the phone. After receiving my enforcement application, she unblocked WhatsApp. But why then did she not also restart the twice-weekly ordered phone calls or time spent in person. How does she think that story will sound when she gets back to court?

I think she'll say she can't afford mediation and leave it at that.
 
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