Hi,
I stumbled upon this forum when googling what I can do in my situation as I am now at a complete loss!
A brief introduction to my situation.
My son's mother and I separated when he was 1. Things were pretty amicable and we got on despite the break up. We had agreed that if we were to meet other people and they were to become significant in our sons life, that we would discuss it with each other. She met someone and within a couple of months, she was referring to him as our child's Dad. Despite me trying to be civil and discuss how disrespectful this was to me, nothing changed. A few months went by and she told me that she was moving away. From one end of the country, to the other. A 5-6 hour drive away. Because of me working full time and not earning all that much at the time, this meant that it became very limited for me to be able to see him. I would go down every month, after pay day. Because I would have to pay for the travel, a hotel and then restaurants and things for us to do while down there. His mum and I had agreed that I could video call my son on a regular basis, but she would often forget and not re-arrange calls. This went on for a year.
She then moved abroad (A 5 hour flight away), due to her new partners job. She asked me to sign to agree to my son leaving the country and said that if I didn't, she'd stop me from seeing him all together. As the soft mug that I am, I agreed as I didn't want things to become messy. The only contact that I could now have was video calls. This was due to the extreme costs involved with going out there and also because COVID hit and travel was not allowed. The video calls were irregular and when they would happen, she would be busy in the back ground and (maybe not on purpose..?) distract our son so that he wanted to be involved in what she was doing with her now new children and rest of her family.
Eventually she moved back and I was seeing my son! It was amazing! I had regular contact with him, regular calls and everything was as perfect as it could be. Contact then stopped and my sons mother said that she didn't want me seeing him while I was with my girlfriend at the time, because my son didn't feel comfortable or welcome, which I had no idea about. In the end, I split up with this girl and she became very toxic. She contacted my sons mother and started to tell her lies about me. My sons Mum was about to start letting me to see my son (as a result of me no longer being with that person), but she called everything off because of what she had been told. Which to this day, I still don't know what has been said. My sons mother has since changed her contact number and moved address. I have no way to contact her and myself and all of my family members are blocked on social media. I have no way to get in touch and I don't know what to do. I really hope that there is someone out there that can help.
I feel very useless and alone. Each night I lay in bed and struggle to sleep because I miss my son and it is eating away at me to think about what my son thinks about me and what he thinks has caused this.
I stumbled upon this forum when googling what I can do in my situation as I am now at a complete loss!
A brief introduction to my situation.
My son's mother and I separated when he was 1. Things were pretty amicable and we got on despite the break up. We had agreed that if we were to meet other people and they were to become significant in our sons life, that we would discuss it with each other. She met someone and within a couple of months, she was referring to him as our child's Dad. Despite me trying to be civil and discuss how disrespectful this was to me, nothing changed. A few months went by and she told me that she was moving away. From one end of the country, to the other. A 5-6 hour drive away. Because of me working full time and not earning all that much at the time, this meant that it became very limited for me to be able to see him. I would go down every month, after pay day. Because I would have to pay for the travel, a hotel and then restaurants and things for us to do while down there. His mum and I had agreed that I could video call my son on a regular basis, but she would often forget and not re-arrange calls. This went on for a year.
She then moved abroad (A 5 hour flight away), due to her new partners job. She asked me to sign to agree to my son leaving the country and said that if I didn't, she'd stop me from seeing him all together. As the soft mug that I am, I agreed as I didn't want things to become messy. The only contact that I could now have was video calls. This was due to the extreme costs involved with going out there and also because COVID hit and travel was not allowed. The video calls were irregular and when they would happen, she would be busy in the back ground and (maybe not on purpose..?) distract our son so that he wanted to be involved in what she was doing with her now new children and rest of her family.
Eventually she moved back and I was seeing my son! It was amazing! I had regular contact with him, regular calls and everything was as perfect as it could be. Contact then stopped and my sons mother said that she didn't want me seeing him while I was with my girlfriend at the time, because my son didn't feel comfortable or welcome, which I had no idea about. In the end, I split up with this girl and she became very toxic. She contacted my sons mother and started to tell her lies about me. My sons Mum was about to start letting me to see my son (as a result of me no longer being with that person), but she called everything off because of what she had been told. Which to this day, I still don't know what has been said. My sons mother has since changed her contact number and moved address. I have no way to contact her and myself and all of my family members are blocked on social media. I have no way to get in touch and I don't know what to do. I really hope that there is someone out there that can help.
I feel very useless and alone. Each night I lay in bed and struggle to sleep because I miss my son and it is eating away at me to think about what my son thinks about me and what he thinks has caused this.