To start things off, I have two children. They are aged 3 and 4.
I’ve been in both of their lives since they were born.
I broke up with their mother after the first one was born. I was honest about why, maybe too honest.
Ever since the separation, not divorce or anything, we weren’t married. It has been really hard for me to have her get me involved.
She’s made every decision for these children. Giving me updates on them instead of telling me where appointments are or with whom.
I’ve consistently asked for involvement, and she would make small changes and tell me I was being difficult when I’d ask for more.
It took a while, but I finally found out where they were going to daycare. I began dropping them off the nights I’d have them.
Her schedule changed, and I began taking them to daycare every morning.
This was all okay but ultimately not the involvement I was looking for. One thing I brought up recently was the fact She chose this daycare on her own and chose it out of proximity. I wasn’t entirely happy with it, and when I expressed that, I was ignored.
This is only the most recent incident of many like it.
I ask the men in my life, and they all tell me to deal with it. Just remove myself and provide financially. “They don’t need to see their father; they need to be provided for”.
After this most recent incident. When she ignored my message of both of us looking for a new daycare, I didn’t show up to pick up the kids.
I didn’t know what else to do; she won’t listen when I’m talking. The only thing that seems to affect her is if she has to look after the children.
I texted her about this. I apologized for not showing up. I let her know that I needed to be heard. That as a parent, this is non-negotiable. I have to be more involved in a manner that is actually effective to their development.
I asked for access to their medical info and otherwise as well as being put on my daughter’s birth certificate because she failed to give me the paperwork after telling me I wasn’t welcome to come to the hospital. I explained that if she couldn’t provide this, I was going to step aside for a while and provide financially.
She initially expressed disbelief and disgust, but eventually stopped responding to my questions. Not willing to work with me.
I want to go to court, but I just don’t know how to get things started. I’m sick with guilt. I can’t look at photos of my kids without breaking down; my body is physically ill, and it’s affecting every part of my life.
How did you get started with the courts? What is the first step?
I’m usually not this helpless, but I feel legitimately paralyzed. I’ve not been without fault, but I don’t feel like I’m asking for a lot, but I’m being told I am. I am truly confused.
I’ve been in both of their lives since they were born.
I broke up with their mother after the first one was born. I was honest about why, maybe too honest.
Ever since the separation, not divorce or anything, we weren’t married. It has been really hard for me to have her get me involved.
She’s made every decision for these children. Giving me updates on them instead of telling me where appointments are or with whom.
I’ve consistently asked for involvement, and she would make small changes and tell me I was being difficult when I’d ask for more.
It took a while, but I finally found out where they were going to daycare. I began dropping them off the nights I’d have them.
Her schedule changed, and I began taking them to daycare every morning.
This was all okay but ultimately not the involvement I was looking for. One thing I brought up recently was the fact She chose this daycare on her own and chose it out of proximity. I wasn’t entirely happy with it, and when I expressed that, I was ignored.
This is only the most recent incident of many like it.
I ask the men in my life, and they all tell me to deal with it. Just remove myself and provide financially. “They don’t need to see their father; they need to be provided for”.
After this most recent incident. When she ignored my message of both of us looking for a new daycare, I didn’t show up to pick up the kids.
I didn’t know what else to do; she won’t listen when I’m talking. The only thing that seems to affect her is if she has to look after the children.
I texted her about this. I apologized for not showing up. I let her know that I needed to be heard. That as a parent, this is non-negotiable. I have to be more involved in a manner that is actually effective to their development.
I asked for access to their medical info and otherwise as well as being put on my daughter’s birth certificate because she failed to give me the paperwork after telling me I wasn’t welcome to come to the hospital. I explained that if she couldn’t provide this, I was going to step aside for a while and provide financially.
She initially expressed disbelief and disgust, but eventually stopped responding to my questions. Not willing to work with me.
I want to go to court, but I just don’t know how to get things started. I’m sick with guilt. I can’t look at photos of my kids without breaking down; my body is physically ill, and it’s affecting every part of my life.
How did you get started with the courts? What is the first step?
I’m usually not this helpless, but I feel legitimately paralyzed. I’ve not been without fault, but I don’t feel like I’m asking for a lot, but I’m being told I am. I am truly confused.