Don't no what topic to put this in Currently going through c100 my ex is refusing to let me see my child it's been 4 months no contact my first hearing is before before Christmas but I'm expecting some sort of a delaying tactic to stop me seeing my child what do I do about giving presents ? I know something might be resolved before Christmas at the hearing but I still can't help but worry
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How to give presents when ex witholding child
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I'm in the same boat, thankfully my stbx agreed for me to send gifts aslong as it was addressed to my son and that was recorded in the FHDRA order
But please get proof of sending, this will evidence you have and not be accused of not,as ex cpuld receive it and claim she got nothing, play the game, think like they do
But please get proof of sending, this will evidence you have and not be accused of not,as ex cpuld receive it and claim she got nothing, play the game, think like they do
Thank you yes I have an address sadly I don't think my ex will actually give it to my child though but if I get proof of sending I know I can prove I've done it , My fhdra is just before Christmas hopefully I can get this address in that hearing
Yeah I’ll be sending via Royal Mail Tracked 24. The gift I’m sending comes with a note but they tend to be small and I can imagine mother could say there was no note/name attached. So, I will be adding a large card with a birthday message clearly stating it’s from dad
Yeah I feel the same that she might not give it to him but will try anyways.
Also on my post got a good read here for how to word messages on the card if you’re interested
Post in thread 'No contact'
https://www.dadswithkids.co.uk/threads/no-contact.2552/post-33512
Thank you much appreciated
What about signed for, PO usually take a photo of it been delivered to hand, I e sent 3 by that method and all with photos, only downside if ex isn't at home it's the dreaded red card for pick and that may not happen, may I ask what you're sending?
Good point. I am thinking Lego and a Card. I checked funkypigeon and they do send via Guaranteed Tracked Royal Mail which requires a signature.
Post office is an option if I decide to go for something else and send directly that way
Yes it will most likely be via funkypigeon, moonpig or something like that so I’ll have the email receipt of it. Hopefully someone will be in to get a signed signature so I’ll keep proof of that too.
If funky or pigeon ypu can have the blank sent to you, to handwrite ,then that way you can box that up with the gift in a box amd send,photo taken before of course
I mean and I'm not telling you to do so but handwriting the card is more personal it reflects you've took the time to do so and not relied on the service they provide which is just a print of whay you want to say
I mean and I'm not telling you to do so but handwriting the card is more personal it reflects you've took the time to do so and not relied on the service they provide which is just a print of whay you want to say
My handwriting is terrible haha, my significant other usually writes the cards. On the site you can write your own personal message so will write something genuine and personal to us. I’ve chosen a specific character card that has some of our core memories tied to it. I’ll be writing an appropriate message for his age to be able to read.
Funky pigeon in particular has the same service for guaranteed delivery so I will have the photo and signature to keep.
Thanks again and totally understand what you are saying.
On second thoughts I’ll get it posted to me then post it out. Best to double on evidence I’ve done it so will take a photo before sending at the PO
My daughters birthday was in the summer and due my ex denying any access or communication I took photos of my family’s cards and have kept them as I knew my ex would throw them straight into the bin. My daughter is very young so I thought that was best for me.
We have to do whatever feels best for our own situation, keeping a record and photos of what we do helps our sanity.
With Christmas on the horizon the dilemma will be similar.
We have to do whatever feels best for our own situation, keeping a record and photos of what we do helps our sanity.
With Christmas on the horizon the dilemma will be similar.
Sorry to hear. I hope there is a turn of events that work in you and your daughters favour.
I agree with it, I’ll keep record and photos incase they never reach him.