For a long time I wasted a lot of time trying to be there for my wife and to try and make things right for the childrens sake.
I think I was trying to do the right thing, cared a lot about my wife, and wanted us to be ok as a family.
As with many of you on here, you soon find out how messed up these stbx's can be and that as much as you try (and that you have done nothing wrong) they will not hesitate to throw you under the bus.
It takes time to move on and even after realising that you have zero feelings anymore for this person you once loved, it is hard to move on.
Not hard to move on because you still love them, that line is well and truly crossed and I can completly say that she means nothing to me.
I mean with all that is going on in the background.....finances, child arrangements, allegations these people throw at you. It gets you down.
It stops you moving on when you want to go out and meet new people, you want to start living your life again.
I am trying to focus on the future and get out there again. But it is difficult when you have negative thoughts and things being thrown at you from these awful ex's that just stop you from enjoying yourself. It plays with your anxiety and stops you.
Anyone else in a similar boat or been there?
I think I was trying to do the right thing, cared a lot about my wife, and wanted us to be ok as a family.
As with many of you on here, you soon find out how messed up these stbx's can be and that as much as you try (and that you have done nothing wrong) they will not hesitate to throw you under the bus.
It takes time to move on and even after realising that you have zero feelings anymore for this person you once loved, it is hard to move on.
Not hard to move on because you still love them, that line is well and truly crossed and I can completly say that she means nothing to me.
I mean with all that is going on in the background.....finances, child arrangements, allegations these people throw at you. It gets you down.
It stops you moving on when you want to go out and meet new people, you want to start living your life again.
I am trying to focus on the future and get out there again. But it is difficult when you have negative thoughts and things being thrown at you from these awful ex's that just stop you from enjoying yourself. It plays with your anxiety and stops you.
Anyone else in a similar boat or been there?