Hi All,
Those who know of me know I'm the partner of a dad. Been going through it over 5 years now
1 child alienated for 2 years, the other semi alienated.
Anyway, I just thought I'd post something I've called hindsight tips.
When you get caught up in the madness of family courts, cafcass etc you can get tied up in knots and feeling like you're losing your mind.
After reading and watching loads of articles and videos of people who have worked with alienated kids or who are now adults who were alienated, my big piece of advice is to try and contact your child/ren in any way possible.
If you're in the unfortunate position of being stopped from seeing your kids, send them a letter/card/text/whatever as soon as you can.
Let them know you're aware they're in a difficult situation but it won't always be like this. Keep in touch as much as possible.
This is so one day your kids can look back (however long you're apart) and say 'dad was always in touch and never gave up'.
Another thing is, don't be scared of all the third parties involved.
There's some bad apples in all organisations. But also some good or neutral people. They're just using a flow chart to work through the case.
Things might not always go your way but always be truthful and child focused. Again, this can be used in the future to prove to your children you were always focused on them.
Always be true to yourself and play the long game.
Those who know of me know I'm the partner of a dad. Been going through it over 5 years now
1 child alienated for 2 years, the other semi alienated.
Anyway, I just thought I'd post something I've called hindsight tips.
When you get caught up in the madness of family courts, cafcass etc you can get tied up in knots and feeling like you're losing your mind.
After reading and watching loads of articles and videos of people who have worked with alienated kids or who are now adults who were alienated, my big piece of advice is to try and contact your child/ren in any way possible.
If you're in the unfortunate position of being stopped from seeing your kids, send them a letter/card/text/whatever as soon as you can.
Let them know you're aware they're in a difficult situation but it won't always be like this. Keep in touch as much as possible.
This is so one day your kids can look back (however long you're apart) and say 'dad was always in touch and never gave up'.
Another thing is, don't be scared of all the third parties involved.
There's some bad apples in all organisations. But also some good or neutral people. They're just using a flow chart to work through the case.
Things might not always go your way but always be truthful and child focused. Again, this can be used in the future to prove to your children you were always focused on them.
Always be true to yourself and play the long game.