Little background. I'll try and make it as short as I can.
My ex and I had a baby together in 2014, we stayed together roughly until she was 2 and then split, I had casual contact until she was 4 and have not seen her since. No major issue between myself and my ex caused the breakdown of contact but I, regrettably, have taken this long to try to establish a relationship with my daughter again.
I submitted my c100 and have had my interview with cafcass. They have spoken to my today after having had their interview with my ex and my daughter who will be turning 10 in two weeks.
My ex was verbally and physically abusive during our relationship which I did not report at the time and do not wish to pursue now, although I did make cafcass aware in my initial interview. She is an extremely manipulative person also. I believe my daughter has been brought up with my ex and her new partner under the impression that he is her father and she has no clue I exist.
Cafcass informed me today that in their initial meeting with my daughter at school, Friday 6th Sept, she made it clear that she does not know who I am. She also said she is happy to receive letters from me in order for us to get to k now each other again. However, my ex sent the cafcass officer an email over the weekend stating that my daughter was extremely upset upon returning home from school and did now want to change her mind and no longer wants to receive such letters. Cafcass re interviewed my daughter on Monday 9th Sept where she informed them of this, with her reasons being she is not ready as she has had too many changes recently (my ex has moved home and had a new baby). Personally those don't sound like thoughts a 9 year old would have.
Cafcass told me today they will still be recommending me to write letter to my daughter and ensure I pay for recorded delivery so I know they have been received.
My issue is
1. I know my ex will not pass these letters along to my daughter as I have send birthday, easter Christmas etc etc cards and gifts every year and she has never passed these along to my daughter. So I expect it to be no different now.
2. If the court order states that these letters will happen and they must be passed on to my daughter - what happens if they are not?
3. If the letter writing goes well and my daughter wants to begin to increase contact with me let's say by meeting - how do I go about that? would I have to resubmit another c100?
I am extremely upset by the cafcass outcome, I didn't expect to be given full unsupervised contact or anything straight off the bat as I know she has not seen me for nearly 6 years. But I did think that there would be a more positive outcome or encouragement from cafcass.
My ex and I had a baby together in 2014, we stayed together roughly until she was 2 and then split, I had casual contact until she was 4 and have not seen her since. No major issue between myself and my ex caused the breakdown of contact but I, regrettably, have taken this long to try to establish a relationship with my daughter again.
I submitted my c100 and have had my interview with cafcass. They have spoken to my today after having had their interview with my ex and my daughter who will be turning 10 in two weeks.
My ex was verbally and physically abusive during our relationship which I did not report at the time and do not wish to pursue now, although I did make cafcass aware in my initial interview. She is an extremely manipulative person also. I believe my daughter has been brought up with my ex and her new partner under the impression that he is her father and she has no clue I exist.
Cafcass informed me today that in their initial meeting with my daughter at school, Friday 6th Sept, she made it clear that she does not know who I am. She also said she is happy to receive letters from me in order for us to get to k now each other again. However, my ex sent the cafcass officer an email over the weekend stating that my daughter was extremely upset upon returning home from school and did now want to change her mind and no longer wants to receive such letters. Cafcass re interviewed my daughter on Monday 9th Sept where she informed them of this, with her reasons being she is not ready as she has had too many changes recently (my ex has moved home and had a new baby). Personally those don't sound like thoughts a 9 year old would have.
Cafcass told me today they will still be recommending me to write letter to my daughter and ensure I pay for recorded delivery so I know they have been received.
My issue is
1. I know my ex will not pass these letters along to my daughter as I have send birthday, easter Christmas etc etc cards and gifts every year and she has never passed these along to my daughter. So I expect it to be no different now.
2. If the court order states that these letters will happen and they must be passed on to my daughter - what happens if they are not?
3. If the letter writing goes well and my daughter wants to begin to increase contact with me let's say by meeting - how do I go about that? would I have to resubmit another c100?
I am extremely upset by the cafcass outcome, I didn't expect to be given full unsupervised contact or anything straight off the bat as I know she has not seen me for nearly 6 years. But I did think that there would be a more positive outcome or encouragement from cafcass.