Help from partners

[Peanut 21]

Hi All,
This is a question for dad's with partners.
I understand everyone has different needs and these will always change depending on what's going on etc.

At what level of help/support do you want from your partner?

Just moral support/shoulder to cry on/just to listen?

Practical help with court, like helping with position statements?

Active involvement with children?

It can be difficult to navigate sometimes and know when to step back when you're first instinct I'd to try and help.

Thanks

 

[Ash]

I think all those are important if you're a couple and things affect both of you. Don't ever let the kids see you disagree though.

 

[Ash]

Having said that - I don't have experience with girls. But boys seem to gravitate more to Dad as they get older in my experience. Important to present a united front though so you don't end up contradicting.

 

[UkDad]

Although I'm at the beginning of this, if I had a new partner then would appreciate their support, to listen and help out with general things.. Also having our own space sometimes; when the emotions go into full steam there is often nothing anyone can do or say to make things better and we just need time on our own to get through it.

 

[Peanut 21]

Yes, time alone to mull stuff over is something I've always understood. I enjoy my own space so happy when my partner needs it.