Hi guys, I had my first hearing a couple of weeks ago. It has been alleged by the ex that I have been using drugs (shock) - although her allegations weren’t deemed by the judge to be evidential or proportionate and so hair strand testing was deemed unnecessary for a number of reasons, including random drug testing at work.
I said I was happy to be tested anyway to show some willing but they’ve set this aside pending the CAFCASS S7 report which I think will support the magistrate’s thoughts and testing won’t be deemed necessary.
HOWEVER, I have been playing with a couple of options
1) agree to testing, on the condition that the ex pays for it (its cost me a couple of grand to get to this stage so far, and cost her absolutely nothing. Neither my employer nor new family have any reason to suspect drug use and nor does the court so if she is saying she’s the only person with suspicions I feel it is only right that she pay) - for the record; I have nothing to hide so a negative result is inevitable.
2) say fk it, pay for the testing myself, test voluntarily despite it not being court ordered and post the result at the next hearing even though it may not even be called for in the hope that it shuts the ex up (although I’m sure I’ll get the likes of “you only stopped for court” or “that’s only a 3 month time frame” etc etc etc)
I have a feeling she will never be satisfied anyway, so there’ll always be something else so this is where my dilemma lies.
Question is, is there any mileage in option 2? I’ll begrudgingly incur the cost if it has a chance of moving things on at the hearing after the S7 report, rather than delay again for a test to be ordered and a result to be posted.
Or if I do my own test, under court conditions, at the same company that the court can order me to do a test - is there any chance that they could still order a further identical test, despite my own test being done a month in advance of the hearing?
Would welcome any options, and also if anyone could point me in the direction of the company that do the testing I’d be most grateful
Many thanks in advance!
I said I was happy to be tested anyway to show some willing but they’ve set this aside pending the CAFCASS S7 report which I think will support the magistrate’s thoughts and testing won’t be deemed necessary.
HOWEVER, I have been playing with a couple of options
1) agree to testing, on the condition that the ex pays for it (its cost me a couple of grand to get to this stage so far, and cost her absolutely nothing. Neither my employer nor new family have any reason to suspect drug use and nor does the court so if she is saying she’s the only person with suspicions I feel it is only right that she pay) - for the record; I have nothing to hide so a negative result is inevitable.
2) say fk it, pay for the testing myself, test voluntarily despite it not being court ordered and post the result at the next hearing even though it may not even be called for in the hope that it shuts the ex up (although I’m sure I’ll get the likes of “you only stopped for court” or “that’s only a 3 month time frame” etc etc etc)
I have a feeling she will never be satisfied anyway, so there’ll always be something else so this is where my dilemma lies.
Question is, is there any mileage in option 2? I’ll begrudgingly incur the cost if it has a chance of moving things on at the hearing after the S7 report, rather than delay again for a test to be ordered and a result to be posted.
Or if I do my own test, under court conditions, at the same company that the court can order me to do a test - is there any chance that they could still order a further identical test, despite my own test being done a month in advance of the hearing?
Would welcome any options, and also if anyone could point me in the direction of the company that do the testing I’d be most grateful
Many thanks in advance!