Hi,
Just looking for some advice as my Ex is stalling and not engaging with me to agree the financial consent order.
My situation is that we've been seperated since August 23 and pending the conditional order in a week or so. Our kids are in secondary school and I have them 50/50.
She was a SAHM throughout the marriage however a year or so before separation she got a part time job, which she still maintains. She is capable of full time work but for whatever reason, she chooses not to.
For the past 18 months or so (as I did throughout the 19 year relationship/9 year marriage), I've paid all bills including the mortgage on the marital home, all bills and rent on the flat i moved into. The marital home is solely in my name (mtg rates were better in solely name as opposed to joint) in terms of the mortgage and deeds.
We had originally verbally agreed 60/40 equity split, 50/50 of my pension, she retains marital jewellery approx £20k and I pay the £25k debt amassed running both homes.
However she recently expressed a desire for a living with order which has floored me and IMO is money motivated. This has also had me reevaluating my offer and frankly is it over generous? Equally surely if she does a PT job and I'm working 60+ hrs a week whilst having the kids 50/50, how is that fair? Feeling increasingly like I'm over a barrel, I've done the decent thing and she just expects me to paying all her bills while she comes out with a majority on the settlement l, if she doesn't get her own way then she finds something else such as threatening me with a lived with order
Just looking for some advice as my Ex is stalling and not engaging with me to agree the financial consent order.
My situation is that we've been seperated since August 23 and pending the conditional order in a week or so. Our kids are in secondary school and I have them 50/50.
She was a SAHM throughout the marriage however a year or so before separation she got a part time job, which she still maintains. She is capable of full time work but for whatever reason, she chooses not to.
For the past 18 months or so (as I did throughout the 19 year relationship/9 year marriage), I've paid all bills including the mortgage on the marital home, all bills and rent on the flat i moved into. The marital home is solely in my name (mtg rates were better in solely name as opposed to joint) in terms of the mortgage and deeds.
We had originally verbally agreed 60/40 equity split, 50/50 of my pension, she retains marital jewellery approx £20k and I pay the £25k debt amassed running both homes.
However she recently expressed a desire for a living with order which has floored me and IMO is money motivated. This has also had me reevaluating my offer and frankly is it over generous? Equally surely if she does a PT job and I'm working 60+ hrs a week whilst having the kids 50/50, how is that fair? Feeling increasingly like I'm over a barrel, I've done the decent thing and she just expects me to paying all her bills while she comes out with a majority on the settlement l, if she doesn't get her own way then she finds something else such as threatening me with a lived with order