I have my final hearing coming up and I have about two weeks to submit my position statement. There are no safeguarding concerns and no accusations (beyond me being an inferior parent and that child is happiest with mum etc etc).
We actually had a morning in court with the judge who will be presiding over the final hearing (ex tried to change final hearing date). He pulled a face (literally) at my suggestion of 2255 and said he's barely seen that in his 20 years but I really think it's the way I explained it, and I've had advice since that it's purely because they are always seen to reject the notion of things like "50/50" as the child is "not a piece of property to be split down the middle." 2 days with each parent Monday to Thursday, and alternate weekends Friday pick to Monday drop off would have been a far better way to explain it.
The crux of my argument is that my son was used to around 50/50 time with me and then his mother reduced my time when I got a serious girlfriend.
The only issue I see with 2255 is I don't actually think my son likes to go that long without seeing either parent. We are currently trialing something at her suggestion which is effectively (monday to sunday overnights, time with dad in orange)
1-1-2-2,
1-2-4.
This is just shit for me and my son, frankly. He goes more time without seeing me and we've gained the grand total of 6 hours over the two weeks from she was insisting on before.
A friend of mine just managed to settle in mediation and his schedule means they each get two overnights monday -thursday, and alternate weekends friday pick up to monday drop off. Whomever had him on the weekend, the other parent has the child mon/tues.
So - 2-2-3,2-2-3.
I think this is brilliant. Child gets an equal amount with each parent and never has to go more than 3 nights without seeing the other parent.
My question is does this seem like something the courts are likely to approve? It's a two week rotation that I think my son would quickly get used to but it does change every week. I am absolutely not bothered about the time being split 50/50 down the middle. For instance I'd be happy to drop him back on sunday evenings on my weekend for a quick solution for everyone.
My initial instinct is that the schedule should be the same each week but that's so hard to do without doing 2255 which I'm just not convinced of right now. I'm just looking for some guidance with typical orders the courts like to approve. Just to reiterate there are no safeguarding concerns and for the most part the judge was confused why we can't sort it out when we seem to co parent effectively and still do things together with our son. Considering how much the Judge didn't like the way I presented the arrangement in numbers, is there a better way to present these in my position statement?
We actually had a morning in court with the judge who will be presiding over the final hearing (ex tried to change final hearing date). He pulled a face (literally) at my suggestion of 2255 and said he's barely seen that in his 20 years but I really think it's the way I explained it, and I've had advice since that it's purely because they are always seen to reject the notion of things like "50/50" as the child is "not a piece of property to be split down the middle." 2 days with each parent Monday to Thursday, and alternate weekends Friday pick to Monday drop off would have been a far better way to explain it.
The crux of my argument is that my son was used to around 50/50 time with me and then his mother reduced my time when I got a serious girlfriend.
The only issue I see with 2255 is I don't actually think my son likes to go that long without seeing either parent. We are currently trialing something at her suggestion which is effectively (monday to sunday overnights, time with dad in orange)
1-1-2-2,
1-2-4.
This is just shit for me and my son, frankly. He goes more time without seeing me and we've gained the grand total of 6 hours over the two weeks from she was insisting on before.
A friend of mine just managed to settle in mediation and his schedule means they each get two overnights monday -thursday, and alternate weekends friday pick up to monday drop off. Whomever had him on the weekend, the other parent has the child mon/tues.
So - 2-2-3,2-2-3.
I think this is brilliant. Child gets an equal amount with each parent and never has to go more than 3 nights without seeing the other parent.
My question is does this seem like something the courts are likely to approve? It's a two week rotation that I think my son would quickly get used to but it does change every week. I am absolutely not bothered about the time being split 50/50 down the middle. For instance I'd be happy to drop him back on sunday evenings on my weekend for a quick solution for everyone.
My initial instinct is that the schedule should be the same each week but that's so hard to do without doing 2255 which I'm just not convinced of right now. I'm just looking for some guidance with typical orders the courts like to approve. Just to reiterate there are no safeguarding concerns and for the most part the judge was confused why we can't sort it out when we seem to co parent effectively and still do things together with our son. Considering how much the Judge didn't like the way I presented the arrangement in numbers, is there a better way to present these in my position statement?