Hi everybody,
Just wanted to get peoples opinions on this and to hear other peoples experience when it comes to contact while away on holiday.
So basically, all holidays are equally shared which is fantastic! This did take a huge fight though and let’s just say that’s not what my daughters mum wanted. Anyway, my daughter goes away for 2 weeks in August and I have asked mum if it’s ok to facetime. Especially now we have a good routine and seeing how well our daughters responded to that though it might be a decent thing to do for her. During the same conversation via a parenting app mum also asked me for the address of a person who I am now spending quite a bit of time with. My daughter isn’t but I am, so it’s absolutely not relevant for me to send the address over and I expressed this. I can’t just give peoples addresses and also it’s none of her business and more specifically it’s not in the order or even been mentioned!! Obviously control and maybe some interest with agenda.
So because I woundnt share this woman’s address she retaliated and said “well, FaceTime isn’t in the court order, so no I don’t agree to that either”. Ffs!! Of course that’s what she is going to say. If people have followed my story you will already know just how much my ex loves to weaponise our daughter. My response was, “ok fair enough I accept your wishes and yes like you say it’s not in the order”. “However, this is not what XXXX would want and maybe you need to explain to her why she can’t talk to daddy when ever she goes away”. So now she’s furious:
1) I didn’t respond to her lashing out
2) I won’t give her the address
3) I have now pointed out it’s our daughter who it’s impacting
So what started out as a simple conversation to discuss communication while away as now turned into my ex telling me I am being emotionally and psychologically and how she is extremely concerned that I will plants seeds to turn our daughter against her and how she is going to be putting fires out that I have started!! Then also mentioned how I said I am going to tell XXXX mummy not been very nice!! Then went on to say I have breached court order!! What the hell!! Never said these things once or breached order. Here we go again I thought. So I quickly closed the conversation by saying “why on earth would I do that”, “please send screenshots of the messages where I have said these things and a list of the things I have done that are in breach and I will make sure I don’t do these things again”.
Surprise surprise! No screenshots
Wow!! All from me simply and nicely asking about FaceTime while away
Thank goodness for the CAO!!
What are peoples thoughts on this and also FaceTime/communication with children while away?
Just wanted to get peoples opinions on this and to hear other peoples experience when it comes to contact while away on holiday.
So basically, all holidays are equally shared which is fantastic! This did take a huge fight though and let’s just say that’s not what my daughters mum wanted. Anyway, my daughter goes away for 2 weeks in August and I have asked mum if it’s ok to facetime. Especially now we have a good routine and seeing how well our daughters responded to that though it might be a decent thing to do for her. During the same conversation via a parenting app mum also asked me for the address of a person who I am now spending quite a bit of time with. My daughter isn’t but I am, so it’s absolutely not relevant for me to send the address over and I expressed this. I can’t just give peoples addresses and also it’s none of her business and more specifically it’s not in the order or even been mentioned!! Obviously control and maybe some interest with agenda.
So because I woundnt share this woman’s address she retaliated and said “well, FaceTime isn’t in the court order, so no I don’t agree to that either”. Ffs!! Of course that’s what she is going to say. If people have followed my story you will already know just how much my ex loves to weaponise our daughter. My response was, “ok fair enough I accept your wishes and yes like you say it’s not in the order”. “However, this is not what XXXX would want and maybe you need to explain to her why she can’t talk to daddy when ever she goes away”. So now she’s furious:
1) I didn’t respond to her lashing out
2) I won’t give her the address
3) I have now pointed out it’s our daughter who it’s impacting
So what started out as a simple conversation to discuss communication while away as now turned into my ex telling me I am being emotionally and psychologically and how she is extremely concerned that I will plants seeds to turn our daughter against her and how she is going to be putting fires out that I have started!! Then also mentioned how I said I am going to tell XXXX mummy not been very nice!! Then went on to say I have breached court order!! What the hell!! Never said these things once or breached order. Here we go again I thought. So I quickly closed the conversation by saying “why on earth would I do that”, “please send screenshots of the messages where I have said these things and a list of the things I have done that are in breach and I will make sure I don’t do these things again”.
Surprise surprise! No screenshots
Wow!! All from me simply and nicely asking about FaceTime while away
Thank goodness for the CAO!!
What are peoples thoughts on this and also FaceTime/communication with children while away?