So I had my day in court and got the arrangement I was after - 6/14 term time and 50/50 holidays. I'll do a full post soon.
My ex always wanted there to be no fixed holiday pattern because it means she can't dictate and mess it about. I did a really really simple fixed holiday plan thanks to Ash, but she waffled so much during the hearing that I'm sure this led to the judge doing the most generic of non subscribed plans meaning "sort it out between you". Didn't even mention birthdays.
I'm desperately trying to get her to plan something 6 months in advance but she is refusing and going so far as to say "The court agreed with me, it's not in Child's interest to plan so rigid and in advance." That is obviously not what they said at all but she clearly needs to feel like she had some sort of win so that's what she's clinging to. I need as little to do with her as possible and it's making me feel like I'm back at square one.
Is there anything I can do? It doesn't feel like it but she seems to listen to anything official so I'm wondering if a solictors letter can do anything at all?
My ex always wanted there to be no fixed holiday pattern because it means she can't dictate and mess it about. I did a really really simple fixed holiday plan thanks to Ash, but she waffled so much during the hearing that I'm sure this led to the judge doing the most generic of non subscribed plans meaning "sort it out between you". Didn't even mention birthdays.
I'm desperately trying to get her to plan something 6 months in advance but she is refusing and going so far as to say "The court agreed with me, it's not in Child's interest to plan so rigid and in advance." That is obviously not what they said at all but she clearly needs to feel like she had some sort of win so that's what she's clinging to. I need as little to do with her as possible and it's making me feel like I'm back at square one.
Is there anything I can do? It doesn't feel like it but she seems to listen to anything official so I'm wondering if a solictors letter can do anything at all?