Hi all, hope everyone is doing well, was hoping I wouldn't have to turn to everyone for help again but kinda knew it was gonna happen when you've got an ex like mine. OK back story is, I am divorced with two young children of whom I have a court order saying I have my kids from Friday 5pm to Sunday 5pm every other weekend plus up to 28 days holiday. My ex is a real nasty piece of work, she has previously removed my contact for up to 6 months in the past citing neglect and the potential of me fleeing the country with the kids, which was all proved to be nonsense, I got the all clear from cafcass and had the prohibited steps order removed as it was based on her lies. She then decided to remove contact at the end of last year again because I had met someone saying I had to put my new partner through her interview process, which I took to court and again was ruled in my favour cause of her nonsense.
That leads to now, I've always paid child maintenance and in most regards have been paying it to her in advance because she has been requesting an advancement. She recently met someone, of whom I think moved in with her and the children very quickly, I think within months of meeting. I told Mt ex I can no longer lend her money (she owes me £2500) or advance any more child maintenance and she's paid up till next week, she didn't like this so she reported non payments to child maintenance services, I submitted my evidence of these payments and her requests for advances and it's being investigated. Anyway I emailed the ex saying that because I do not trust her or her word and she is a very abusive and angry person with an emotional disorder I will be wearing a body cam for the handovers for my protection.
Last week I received a random text message from her with just a police reference number, I enquired to her and received no response, I phone the police and they can't give out details only for me to contact social services and that the case is closed on the police side. I contacted social services and they said they can't say anything but they don't require me to do anything but I can email a request for details of which I have done. I emailed the ex to confirm the children will be available for me to pick up on Friday but of course no response. So I'm assuming she's made some more stuff up and that contact is going to be witheld and that I'm going to have to spend more money to go back to court, money I can't afford too. Is there a way I can make it so she can't keep doing this and to stop playing these games cause clearing it's about spite and not the best interest of the children.
Thanks again everyone
That leads to now, I've always paid child maintenance and in most regards have been paying it to her in advance because she has been requesting an advancement. She recently met someone, of whom I think moved in with her and the children very quickly, I think within months of meeting. I told Mt ex I can no longer lend her money (she owes me £2500) or advance any more child maintenance and she's paid up till next week, she didn't like this so she reported non payments to child maintenance services, I submitted my evidence of these payments and her requests for advances and it's being investigated. Anyway I emailed the ex saying that because I do not trust her or her word and she is a very abusive and angry person with an emotional disorder I will be wearing a body cam for the handovers for my protection.
Last week I received a random text message from her with just a police reference number, I enquired to her and received no response, I phone the police and they can't give out details only for me to contact social services and that the case is closed on the police side. I contacted social services and they said they can't say anything but they don't require me to do anything but I can email a request for details of which I have done. I emailed the ex to confirm the children will be available for me to pick up on Friday but of course no response. So I'm assuming she's made some more stuff up and that contact is going to be witheld and that I'm going to have to spend more money to go back to court, money I can't afford too. Is there a way I can make it so she can't keep doing this and to stop playing these games cause clearing it's about spite and not the best interest of the children.
Thanks again everyone