hi everyone
this is my 1st time on the forum and not to sure where to start with everything, so I hope anyone that reads this will just bear with me, as this might be all over the show due to needing to get this out.
me and my ex partner has had a very rocky relationship for the last 3 years of a 12 year relationship, and it came to a head last June when she grabbed our daughter by the throat, I told her we needed help from social services and when I suggested this she tried to take our kids out of school and run away with them, thankfully I managed to stop that, that's how social service had got involved with our family.
I am still currently living in the same home as her as I have serious concerns about the way she would raise the kids and even my daughter has said she doesn't want to live with her and has told social service this, her main fight seems to be the property we live in and she believes its given that because she is the mother she is entitled to be the main carer for the kids, she has alienated me away from my step daughter to the point I can't even text her or talk with her without talking to my ex about the conversation, she says its for my step daughters protection, which is lies as my step daughter has fought for a relationship with myself.
since then my ex has made such lies up about me being abusive (so she can get legal aid) and from what ive read that seems to the usual, knowing full well that I won't be able to get legal help due to my finances. ive since been dragged into court for a NMO and had an interim order for 6 weeks, luckily for me I was able to disprove all of her allegations and we both had cross undertakings (which she has broken on a consistent basis).
I decided to take out a CAO against her, as I believe that its the most common sense to sort out the main carers for the kids then a transfer of tenancy would be relatively straight forward, but unfortunately she has has other ideas. we have both been interviewed by CAFCASS and the report seems to be in my favour they recommend a fact finding hearing as well as doctors reports from herself regarding her mental health issues and engagement with her meds, so am wondering how long it normally takes to get into the first court date from then the report was filed at the end of January, it has also been recommended that the section 7 report be filed from our social worker.
we are in the middle of an occupancy order as I contested this knowing once again she has lied and pretty much said the same things from the dismissed NMO, she has lied to the judge saying about police records about me being abusive, so the judge has ordered her to make another statement with details and evidence which she hasn't done, and some of the things she has accused me of is laughable at best
ive now heard through the grapevine that she's going for a transfer of tenancy order which I will contest, I feel that this is possibly a way to try and make me give up and just walk away but I can't do that, and ever look at my kids in the eye again.
I hope that this can get resolved quickly for our children but it looks like ive got a big uphill battle which I won't rest until its concluded, so I hope that anyone reading this, it will give you a bit of hope that if I can soldier on through this, you can.
many thanks for reading this and I wish you the best in the future
this is my 1st time on the forum and not to sure where to start with everything, so I hope anyone that reads this will just bear with me, as this might be all over the show due to needing to get this out.
me and my ex partner has had a very rocky relationship for the last 3 years of a 12 year relationship, and it came to a head last June when she grabbed our daughter by the throat, I told her we needed help from social services and when I suggested this she tried to take our kids out of school and run away with them, thankfully I managed to stop that, that's how social service had got involved with our family.
I am still currently living in the same home as her as I have serious concerns about the way she would raise the kids and even my daughter has said she doesn't want to live with her and has told social service this, her main fight seems to be the property we live in and she believes its given that because she is the mother she is entitled to be the main carer for the kids, she has alienated me away from my step daughter to the point I can't even text her or talk with her without talking to my ex about the conversation, she says its for my step daughters protection, which is lies as my step daughter has fought for a relationship with myself.
since then my ex has made such lies up about me being abusive (so she can get legal aid) and from what ive read that seems to the usual, knowing full well that I won't be able to get legal help due to my finances. ive since been dragged into court for a NMO and had an interim order for 6 weeks, luckily for me I was able to disprove all of her allegations and we both had cross undertakings (which she has broken on a consistent basis).
I decided to take out a CAO against her, as I believe that its the most common sense to sort out the main carers for the kids then a transfer of tenancy would be relatively straight forward, but unfortunately she has has other ideas. we have both been interviewed by CAFCASS and the report seems to be in my favour they recommend a fact finding hearing as well as doctors reports from herself regarding her mental health issues and engagement with her meds, so am wondering how long it normally takes to get into the first court date from then the report was filed at the end of January, it has also been recommended that the section 7 report be filed from our social worker.
we are in the middle of an occupancy order as I contested this knowing once again she has lied and pretty much said the same things from the dismissed NMO, she has lied to the judge saying about police records about me being abusive, so the judge has ordered her to make another statement with details and evidence which she hasn't done, and some of the things she has accused me of is laughable at best
ive now heard through the grapevine that she's going for a transfer of tenancy order which I will contest, I feel that this is possibly a way to try and make me give up and just walk away but I can't do that, and ever look at my kids in the eye again.
I hope that this can get resolved quickly for our children but it looks like ive got a big uphill battle which I won't rest until its concluded, so I hope that anyone reading this, it will give you a bit of hope that if I can soldier on through this, you can.
many thanks for reading this and I wish you the best in the future