My son and my own application for CAO were consolidated a while ago, it was flagged as being a resolvable issue and was listed for a hearing to try and reach an agreement, the hearing that was supposed to take 1 hour was 2 1/2 hours in with no real progress being made, mother would not agree on anything suggested. She answered the judge back, interrupted when he was speaking, she got up and left the room telling the judge ‘ this was all ridiculous’ my sons barrister had to ask her to come back in and her father was heard shouting ‘let me in there’. She did come back in and was told exactly what was going to happen, and it was not what she had insisted was the only thing she was allowing me to do, which was to continue to going to her house or take have contact in the community with me having to remain in public, not allowing me to go to any house of the paternal family.
I did however find a gps tracker (I have posted previously about this) I stopped taking the children out after this in the community after this and said I had no one to help me facilitate it. I remained silent for a long time in order to continue contact, only when it suited the mother, this was a horrible experience for me. I put all of this in my statement in response to s7 report this was ultimately the reason the judge allowed me what I had asked for in relation to my application, being allowed to have the children at my home again.
Now that was in line with the recommendations in the cafcass report where it gave no reason why I could not have the children at my house. (My CAO)
In relation to my sons CAO (which needed his contact to be supervised due to him having positive drug test) despite the test not being initially ordered until mother refused to allow to make the children available at contact centre as ordered. This lead to an urgent hearing where by drug testing was then ordered to satisfy mother. At this point son had no contact with children at all for 9 months, Son had legal representation at this stage, he was honest about his recreational drug use, he did not cut his hair ( which I would suggest if he had been knowingly untruthful he would have done have done) the report has said because of hos positive test result alone would mean his contact would need to be supervised on an ongoing basis.
The recommendations in report gave me the option whether to progress my own application depending on my preference I should it be to supervise my son’s contact then there would be no real reason why I could not do so.
Mother absolutely refused this idea, saying i would not be vigilant and she would not trust me as an appropriate supervisor.
Previously as said above contact at contact centre had taken place 6 sessions paid for by cafcass the rest covered by my son ( myself as he has ADHD, and the stress over the last year, false allegations have seen my son not being able to retain employment) the cost of 12 sessions (£480) was caused by the delay in submitting of the s7report. I only paid for these as I truly believed that because the contact centre report were so good me would definitely me moving away from there.
The judge I think had reached the end of his patience no movement was being made in relation to me being supervisor. My son barrister did not suggest giving the opportunity to find a different supervisor nor did they inform the judge of his financial position (that I had covered the cost of the previous contact centre sessions, he had £0 in his bank and had in the last 3 months had a total payment of £ from universal credit and was subsequently on a sanction. The judge assumed my son had covered the cost, and given the drug test showed high cocaine level he assumes he is spending ‘all’ his money on drugs despite not having any money (which can be proven) the judge has decided it was to much of a burden placed on me to make a decision to choose ( I didn’t realise that I needed to choose either or, there was no reason why I could not do the 2).
The judge made the decision on my behalf which was for my son to continue to have contact at the contact centre once every 2 weeks. As he has no money whatsoever.
My main concern here is that by him having no money he is going to breach the order. I am in absolute shock I can not believe that he is now in a worse situation than before.
The barrister is writing out the particulars, the judge said that any issues can be resolved in his time via email and set the date of Tuesday 4pm for finalisation.
I was so stressed I stunned the barrister who was oblivious to many things here especially the fact my son had no money. I feel they were highly incompetent and their lack of experience playing a key role in judges decision. How can the barrister continue to work on an order he knowing its going that to be broken! I suggest at the very least that the judge needs to know his financial situation, there needs to be a fact finding in relation to my son’s CAO no fair consideration has taken place no submissions, nothing to justify such a detrimental outcome.
All of my weekend has been focused on ensuring my son does not harm himself, Im at my wits end, I have promised him that I would be speaking to his solicitor first thing and will be getting something done. PLEASE HELP ME what can be done??
I did however find a gps tracker (I have posted previously about this) I stopped taking the children out after this in the community after this and said I had no one to help me facilitate it. I remained silent for a long time in order to continue contact, only when it suited the mother, this was a horrible experience for me. I put all of this in my statement in response to s7 report this was ultimately the reason the judge allowed me what I had asked for in relation to my application, being allowed to have the children at my home again.
Now that was in line with the recommendations in the cafcass report where it gave no reason why I could not have the children at my house. (My CAO)
In relation to my sons CAO (which needed his contact to be supervised due to him having positive drug test) despite the test not being initially ordered until mother refused to allow to make the children available at contact centre as ordered. This lead to an urgent hearing where by drug testing was then ordered to satisfy mother. At this point son had no contact with children at all for 9 months, Son had legal representation at this stage, he was honest about his recreational drug use, he did not cut his hair ( which I would suggest if he had been knowingly untruthful he would have done have done) the report has said because of hos positive test result alone would mean his contact would need to be supervised on an ongoing basis.
The recommendations in report gave me the option whether to progress my own application depending on my preference I should it be to supervise my son’s contact then there would be no real reason why I could not do so.
Mother absolutely refused this idea, saying i would not be vigilant and she would not trust me as an appropriate supervisor.
Previously as said above contact at contact centre had taken place 6 sessions paid for by cafcass the rest covered by my son ( myself as he has ADHD, and the stress over the last year, false allegations have seen my son not being able to retain employment) the cost of 12 sessions (£480) was caused by the delay in submitting of the s7report. I only paid for these as I truly believed that because the contact centre report were so good me would definitely me moving away from there.
The judge I think had reached the end of his patience no movement was being made in relation to me being supervisor. My son barrister did not suggest giving the opportunity to find a different supervisor nor did they inform the judge of his financial position (that I had covered the cost of the previous contact centre sessions, he had £0 in his bank and had in the last 3 months had a total payment of £ from universal credit and was subsequently on a sanction. The judge assumed my son had covered the cost, and given the drug test showed high cocaine level he assumes he is spending ‘all’ his money on drugs despite not having any money (which can be proven) the judge has decided it was to much of a burden placed on me to make a decision to choose ( I didn’t realise that I needed to choose either or, there was no reason why I could not do the 2).
The judge made the decision on my behalf which was for my son to continue to have contact at the contact centre once every 2 weeks. As he has no money whatsoever.
My main concern here is that by him having no money he is going to breach the order. I am in absolute shock I can not believe that he is now in a worse situation than before.
The barrister is writing out the particulars, the judge said that any issues can be resolved in his time via email and set the date of Tuesday 4pm for finalisation.
I was so stressed I stunned the barrister who was oblivious to many things here especially the fact my son had no money. I feel they were highly incompetent and their lack of experience playing a key role in judges decision. How can the barrister continue to work on an order he knowing its going that to be broken! I suggest at the very least that the judge needs to know his financial situation, there needs to be a fact finding in relation to my son’s CAO no fair consideration has taken place no submissions, nothing to justify such a detrimental outcome.
All of my weekend has been focused on ensuring my son does not harm himself, Im at my wits end, I have promised him that I would be speaking to his solicitor first thing and will be getting something done. PLEASE HELP ME what can be done??