Of all the difficult things I came to understand and expected to happen after I got divorced, which mostly did, the one thing that has really hurt, and is the most difficult to accept is that my older daughter (13 this Oct)- from my previous marriage- wishes not to have anything to do with her half brother who is 4 and lives nearby. I totally get it. We have talked a lot about it- but her ultimate stance on things is she's not ready, and I sense recently that this is going to be how things are for a very long time to come. For myself it's naturally very difficult to see my daughter -who has always wished for a brother or sister- to miss out on having the next best thing. (she has no full siblings btw). Term times I visit her once during the week and most of the day Saturday, and we do some holidays together, just the two of us. I'm on quite good terms with her mum these days and that in part is where things are getting stuck I suspect. My daughter often has her mum and dad at home like the ol' days even though it's brief.- So why would she shake all that up and have to deal with the other reality of the situation? There's of course more back story which I won't dwell on -unless asked- but I'm curious if anyone else has some advice about bringing half siblings together, or just to hear someone else's experiences successes or fails. It's hard. Most of my day-to-day life is a total mystery to my daughter- aside from these short moments I have with her- and I know she is very saddened by how little time we have. She has been given the choice in this all along which I accept. (Maybe 20 years ago it would of been different). But I've been subjected to many different opinions (even from counsellors) on this- but I can see it's right in the case of my daughter. I don't want to compel her to do something she doesn't want to do. Yet -I'm worried as sometimes it's so hard that I get so angry/frustrated and feel like moving far away and just saying. 'hey if you want to see me you need to come and stay her for the weekend, or the week and get to know your brother and just suck it up.' But I kind of know how that would play out and my ex can into lockdown/mean quite quickly. Plus I think she deep down she really doesn't want my daughter to take that step and to meet my current partner or her brother, though she says that she will never obstruct my daughters wishes. I know where everyone is coming - its been hard for everyone so I'm not angry at anyone but -just utter despair sometime as to what to do. Thanks for reading thins far. Bests ciro