Hi All,
I’m considering starting the court process, My Ex is extremely obstructive, and lives with her parents, her father is extremely controlling and has been emotionally abusive to my children, my 13 year old daughter was dropped to me following an argument and physical fight with her mum around 9 weeks ago and has refused to return to her grandparents property since, she won’t speak to or see her mum. I’m getting false allegations of abuse against me each time I try to get things moving forward and also allegations of bad parenting. My other daughter is only allowed to see me overnight 2 nights a week and all other contact is refused, including holidays within the uk! She is using emotional blackmail to try and get our eldest daughter to talk to her, saying she won’t discuss a school move if she won’t speak to her and also she won’t allow us to go away with my youngest if the eldest won’t speak to her, this is all documented in OFW app. My concern is applying court could backfire and my eldest may be forced to go back to her mum, which she has told me will mean she will start running away again, she ran to mine twice before she was dropped here to “calm down”
Because of my concerns around the grandparents I’m considering a lives with order for both children. I would still be suggesting access for mum at least 3 to 4 times a week but would not want the children spending time with the grandparents. I’m really after peoples opinions on how likely I am to :
1. Keep my 13 year old daughter with me (seeing mum when she is ready to consider this again)
2. Get a lives with order for both girls
3. Be able to limit grandparents access due to the nature of the way the children are spoken to by mainly their grandfather. (I have a recording in which my daughter was told she owes him everything and that she was a guest in the house she is supposed to live in)
Thanks in advance for your advice
I’m considering starting the court process, My Ex is extremely obstructive, and lives with her parents, her father is extremely controlling and has been emotionally abusive to my children, my 13 year old daughter was dropped to me following an argument and physical fight with her mum around 9 weeks ago and has refused to return to her grandparents property since, she won’t speak to or see her mum. I’m getting false allegations of abuse against me each time I try to get things moving forward and also allegations of bad parenting. My other daughter is only allowed to see me overnight 2 nights a week and all other contact is refused, including holidays within the uk! She is using emotional blackmail to try and get our eldest daughter to talk to her, saying she won’t discuss a school move if she won’t speak to her and also she won’t allow us to go away with my youngest if the eldest won’t speak to her, this is all documented in OFW app. My concern is applying court could backfire and my eldest may be forced to go back to her mum, which she has told me will mean she will start running away again, she ran to mine twice before she was dropped here to “calm down”
Because of my concerns around the grandparents I’m considering a lives with order for both children. I would still be suggesting access for mum at least 3 to 4 times a week but would not want the children spending time with the grandparents. I’m really after peoples opinions on how likely I am to :
1. Keep my 13 year old daughter with me (seeing mum when she is ready to consider this again)
2. Get a lives with order for both girls
3. Be able to limit grandparents access due to the nature of the way the children are spoken to by mainly their grandfather. (I have a recording in which my daughter was told she owes him everything and that she was a guest in the house she is supposed to live in)
Thanks in advance for your advice