Hi everyone,
I’m sad to hear of so many situations on this forum where I’ve found myself almost identical affected and I’m intrigued by the court rulings and decisions where the children are trapped in the middle and still suffering.
On my case, it has been going on since 2013, when I divorced their mother after I found out she’s been seen other men.
I’ll try to be minimise my story with the main picture.
We had live-in childminders for most of the time and the children were 4, 7 and 10 at that time.
I’ve been back to courts 4 times to rectify the disagreements related with her ways of disrespecting the orders.
We both lived in London most of the time and the first 3 orders up to 2018, gave me the rights to see the children every other weekend picking them up from school on Fridays and dropping them back at school on Mondays, half of the holidays and also had the parental rights to stay involved into the school and other activities of the children.
The oldest child started living with me from the early of 2016 after the mother kicked him out following an disagreement.
It all changed when the mother remarried in 2019, sold the house I purchased first in London and moved in the Norfolk county buying a new house.
She picked the younger children from my place after the summer holidays on the 2nd of September 2019 and I did not seen them since.
The mother moved the children’s school without telling me a thing and did not want to mediate a new plan to update the arrangements.
After few months, I’ve been given my daughter’s school details by the Norfolk council and booked and attended a meeting with the headteacher.
I found that, there were allegations against me and they were very serious like: I’m an alcoholic, I’ve beaten her during the marriage and the children, that she moved out of London running away from me.
Meanwhile, I was advised by the police and by the social services to go back to court to regain my contact. I’ve applied with another C100 application and the Peterborough court.
I’ve provided physical evidence about the false allegations. On her statement, she even said that I have been abusive to the headteacher and their school staff. A direct statement from the headteacher has proved how our meeting went on and no staff has been abused.
Despite bringing also evidence showing my daughter crying on social media of missing me, the child guardian said that is not the case and actually the children do not want to see me anymore.
The judge ignored all my evidence of being a good provider and the benefits of me been involved into their upbringing as always involved and ignored the previous orders and granted all the mother’s requests.
I’m not allowed to contact them direct or indirect.
The reason was that the children do not want to see me anymore which is really against my evidence showing my conversations via texts with my daughter during the trials, where she was clearly expressing her wishes to come and see her little step sister.
I was not allowed to apply to court for 2 years.
Occasionally, I did manage to speak with my daughter via social apps- texts, sending her a Happy Birthday message or telling her I miss her so much but she’s totally rejecting me now after so long and looks really annoyed of me calling me a stalker or a sick bastard. She complained about making her mother suffer dragging her through courts and if I contact her, she’ll loose the rights to stay on social apps… She’s saying she’s having a better house and she doesn’t need me anymore…
I don’t blame the children at all, as I know where all these reactions are coming from, but the alienation against me has been so obvious but ignored by the legal institutions…
Do I have no more rights to see my children anymore?
I’m dying inside and wake up crying thinking of them. How far can this nightmare go? These people got no remorse of their actions and that affect generations of families. Disconnecting the children from their roots are killing the family spirit and pure care and love.
I’m not alone in this, I feel blessed having a supportive wife and another princess daughter. But I can not give up
on my other children. They also bonded very well but we’ve been separated by this insecure system afraid to take acknowledge about the real facts whiteout bothering to investigate the allegations and make it easier leaving other unprepared personal to decide the faith of the children.
There are so many distinctive errors in the system and in the people’s actions where you only need to apply the “common sense” rule. But for some, maybe is too much asking…
I can not find many advises around. Some say to take their mother to court for false allegations that lead breaking my relationship with my children.
Some say to apply again with C100.
Any advise will be much appreciated as these 2 year ban to apply to court should come to an end…
I haven’t hug my 2 children since 2nd of September 2019…
Thank you.
I’m sad to hear of so many situations on this forum where I’ve found myself almost identical affected and I’m intrigued by the court rulings and decisions where the children are trapped in the middle and still suffering.
On my case, it has been going on since 2013, when I divorced their mother after I found out she’s been seen other men.
I’ll try to be minimise my story with the main picture.
We had live-in childminders for most of the time and the children were 4, 7 and 10 at that time.
I’ve been back to courts 4 times to rectify the disagreements related with her ways of disrespecting the orders.
We both lived in London most of the time and the first 3 orders up to 2018, gave me the rights to see the children every other weekend picking them up from school on Fridays and dropping them back at school on Mondays, half of the holidays and also had the parental rights to stay involved into the school and other activities of the children.
The oldest child started living with me from the early of 2016 after the mother kicked him out following an disagreement.
It all changed when the mother remarried in 2019, sold the house I purchased first in London and moved in the Norfolk county buying a new house.
She picked the younger children from my place after the summer holidays on the 2nd of September 2019 and I did not seen them since.
The mother moved the children’s school without telling me a thing and did not want to mediate a new plan to update the arrangements.
After few months, I’ve been given my daughter’s school details by the Norfolk council and booked and attended a meeting with the headteacher.
I found that, there were allegations against me and they were very serious like: I’m an alcoholic, I’ve beaten her during the marriage and the children, that she moved out of London running away from me.
Meanwhile, I was advised by the police and by the social services to go back to court to regain my contact. I’ve applied with another C100 application and the Peterborough court.
I’ve provided physical evidence about the false allegations. On her statement, she even said that I have been abusive to the headteacher and their school staff. A direct statement from the headteacher has proved how our meeting went on and no staff has been abused.
Despite bringing also evidence showing my daughter crying on social media of missing me, the child guardian said that is not the case and actually the children do not want to see me anymore.
The judge ignored all my evidence of being a good provider and the benefits of me been involved into their upbringing as always involved and ignored the previous orders and granted all the mother’s requests.
I’m not allowed to contact them direct or indirect.
The reason was that the children do not want to see me anymore which is really against my evidence showing my conversations via texts with my daughter during the trials, where she was clearly expressing her wishes to come and see her little step sister.
I was not allowed to apply to court for 2 years.
Occasionally, I did manage to speak with my daughter via social apps- texts, sending her a Happy Birthday message or telling her I miss her so much but she’s totally rejecting me now after so long and looks really annoyed of me calling me a stalker or a sick bastard. She complained about making her mother suffer dragging her through courts and if I contact her, she’ll loose the rights to stay on social apps… She’s saying she’s having a better house and she doesn’t need me anymore…
I don’t blame the children at all, as I know where all these reactions are coming from, but the alienation against me has been so obvious but ignored by the legal institutions…
Do I have no more rights to see my children anymore?
I’m dying inside and wake up crying thinking of them. How far can this nightmare go? These people got no remorse of their actions and that affect generations of families. Disconnecting the children from their roots are killing the family spirit and pure care and love.
I’m not alone in this, I feel blessed having a supportive wife and another princess daughter. But I can not give up
on my other children. They also bonded very well but we’ve been separated by this insecure system afraid to take acknowledge about the real facts whiteout bothering to investigate the allegations and make it easier leaving other unprepared personal to decide the faith of the children.
There are so many distinctive errors in the system and in the people’s actions where you only need to apply the “common sense” rule. But for some, maybe is too much asking…
I can not find many advises around. Some say to take their mother to court for false allegations that lead breaking my relationship with my children.
Some say to apply again with C100.
Any advise will be much appreciated as these 2 year ban to apply to court should come to an end…
I haven’t hug my 2 children since 2nd of September 2019…
Thank you.