My situation. Divorced 6 years ago, son from that relationship whom I see on a 50/50 basis, we have equal nights, court has never been involved, perfectly amicable.
Partner I met whilst going through my divorce, 1 child of her own whom I've looked after, and provided for since. We have 2 children together, so I have 3 natural children, and her child who I was going to adopt, however mother changed her mind once she realised i'd have PR for her.
So my now ex partner has a history of taking the children whenever she loses her temper etc. She is a complete narcissist who has bullied me emotionally for years, with constant threats to remove the children. I have provided for this woman without question, she has been able to work, or not work, do whatever she wanted, we lived a relatively comfortable lifestyle.
I ended the relationship with her earlier this year as she finally had broken me. She has known over all these years that I would never leave my children, but I couldn't cope with her anymore. I have looked after my children for the majority of the time up until then, when she left supposedly to visit someone and hasnt returned since. I then get served a Non Molestation Order and she is refusing any contact for me to see the children, or for my eldest to see his siblings.
She is a fantasist, and has witness statements which I have received this Monday which contain so many lies. I am trying to get through this, I have a solicitor and I have filed for a residence order. She is completely unstable and only concerned for herself. I can disprove alot of the accusations but many of them are made up in total collusion so I'm working my way through but some things are very hard to argue against when she and friend is happy to lie.
Our next time in court is early May, where we should have the 2 cases combined. I have a CAFCASS interview via phone a week prior to court. I still have my eldest 50/50 and that will never change.
She has taken the children away from him and I, she has made no accusations about my parenting. Her friends have and they are total fabrications. She has a video which she tried to use, but I hadn't done anything, and she called the police twice. From now reading her allegations and the statements and going back over texts etc there is a fairly clear pattern that she has been trying to set me up despite doing some bad things herself.
She has called the police and taken the kids before.
It's not the first time she has done this, (other child's Father) hence the worry about court, setting me up with this small video she has etc.
Life has been a nightmare with her, and I'm the most doting gentle Dad even if I do say that myself. My parents know what she is like, her mother does and is on my side also but is obviously not getting involved court wise.
I face having to defend myself against outright lies which is obviously extremely stressful. Our youngest is 18 months old and such a daddies boy, she could not settle him, i did it every night, I got him milk, if he needed settling in the night i did it, sometimes he needed to sleep in bed with me and would do so lying on my chest etc.
She has been unable to cope with the kids, shes very resentful of them but uses them against me, the amount of times she's threatened to take them away is how she abused me all this time. I do have some messages she has sent which support that.
My solicitor is saying she wont get away with it, but i'm absolutely petrified. She had to leave when she did, as I was purchasing a second house to move to which had 1 week left until completion, I was happy for her to stay in our family home which I own with the children, but she knew then she would have a much more difficult time to move.
Any advice or comments welcome. Thankyou
Partner I met whilst going through my divorce, 1 child of her own whom I've looked after, and provided for since. We have 2 children together, so I have 3 natural children, and her child who I was going to adopt, however mother changed her mind once she realised i'd have PR for her.
So my now ex partner has a history of taking the children whenever she loses her temper etc. She is a complete narcissist who has bullied me emotionally for years, with constant threats to remove the children. I have provided for this woman without question, she has been able to work, or not work, do whatever she wanted, we lived a relatively comfortable lifestyle.
I ended the relationship with her earlier this year as she finally had broken me. She has known over all these years that I would never leave my children, but I couldn't cope with her anymore. I have looked after my children for the majority of the time up until then, when she left supposedly to visit someone and hasnt returned since. I then get served a Non Molestation Order and she is refusing any contact for me to see the children, or for my eldest to see his siblings.
She is a fantasist, and has witness statements which I have received this Monday which contain so many lies. I am trying to get through this, I have a solicitor and I have filed for a residence order. She is completely unstable and only concerned for herself. I can disprove alot of the accusations but many of them are made up in total collusion so I'm working my way through but some things are very hard to argue against when she and friend is happy to lie.
Our next time in court is early May, where we should have the 2 cases combined. I have a CAFCASS interview via phone a week prior to court. I still have my eldest 50/50 and that will never change.
She has taken the children away from him and I, she has made no accusations about my parenting. Her friends have and they are total fabrications. She has a video which she tried to use, but I hadn't done anything, and she called the police twice. From now reading her allegations and the statements and going back over texts etc there is a fairly clear pattern that she has been trying to set me up despite doing some bad things herself.
She has called the police and taken the kids before.
It's not the first time she has done this, (other child's Father) hence the worry about court, setting me up with this small video she has etc.
Life has been a nightmare with her, and I'm the most doting gentle Dad even if I do say that myself. My parents know what she is like, her mother does and is on my side also but is obviously not getting involved court wise.
I face having to defend myself against outright lies which is obviously extremely stressful. Our youngest is 18 months old and such a daddies boy, she could not settle him, i did it every night, I got him milk, if he needed settling in the night i did it, sometimes he needed to sleep in bed with me and would do so lying on my chest etc.
She has been unable to cope with the kids, shes very resentful of them but uses them against me, the amount of times she's threatened to take them away is how she abused me all this time. I do have some messages she has sent which support that.
My solicitor is saying she wont get away with it, but i'm absolutely petrified. She had to leave when she did, as I was purchasing a second house to move to which had 1 week left until completion, I was happy for her to stay in our family home which I own with the children, but she knew then she would have a much more difficult time to move.
Any advice or comments welcome. Thankyou
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