Co-parenting plan

[jtcm0]

Hello all,

I had the first Cafcass call yesterday and I explained my co-parenting plan and they were extremely supportive of it and so was our daughter's keyworker. My ex will have her first Cafcass phone call before the end of the week so I'm told. My ex is in agreement to have a parenting plan. So I sent her in 2 messages of what I think should be in the plan. The first message yesterday I explained what co-parent app we should use. I got no response from her after she had seen the message. I today sent another message of what we should do going ahead. There is a CAO in place since last year so the main thing is following that but I've suggested to put things in the plan that is going to make everything easier for both myself and herself but more importantly it would be easier on our nearly 2 year old daughter. Again with this message its been seen but ignored. With both messages I made sure she knew I wanted and would value her in put to this plan and I ended both messages with an invite and opportunity for her to express how she felt with what I said and if she wanted to add anything but she hasn't. My question is this: What do I do now she has ignored the messages? She would try to claim harassment if I message to ask what she thinks of those messages and she'd block me from messaging her so it would be difficult to arrange my weekly contact hence the reason for the app. Do I now wait until its gone through her part of the Cafcass stuff and address it in court?

 

[Merlin836]

It's a tricky one but as you're aware your ex has I assume seen the messages but decided not to respond ( although could she also be thinking about how to respond and may just be taking her time ) .
If she is ignoring your messages then trying again I do not think will achieve much if anything.
You've tried so I'd just let Cafcass speak to her now and see what happens next as I think you've done what you can.
The parenting plan may have given her something to think about.
Did you send the parenting plan via the Cafcass website . It's not bad and gives food for thought .
Maybe your ex disagrees with some of your suggestions and is wondering how to respond especially if it's something neither of you will budge on.

 

[jtcm0]

It's a tricky one but as you're aware your ex has I assume seen the messages but decided not to respond ( although could she also be thinking about how to respond and may just be taking her time ) .
If she is ignoring your messages then trying again I do not think will achieve much if anything.
You've tried so I'd just let Cafcass speak to her now and see what happens next as I think you've done what you can.
The parenting plan may have given her something to think about.
Did you send the parenting plan via the Cafcass website . It's not bad and gives food for thought .
Maybe your ex disagrees with some of your suggestions and is wondering how to respond especially if it's something neither of you will budge on.

Yeah its on Facebook so she's 100% seen it whether she has read it or not I don't know but you may be right she may just be taking her time to respond.
I looked at every topic in the Cafcass plan and went through the points in relation to our daughter Some of the points aren't relevant as our daughters not even 2 yet. She often refuses to speak about any of the issues we need to speak about because she thinks its a attack on her when it never is. The keyworker will see her and my daughter tomorrow so hopefully she can advise that my ex cant argue with my points although the keyworker doesn't and isn't meant to get too involved in the spending time arrangements and court stuff