Hi everyone,
I have been over-paying CMS to ex for the best part of a year even though my child is with me half the time (often more than half the time) in my house and I would consider myself as primary carer (although ex seems to thinks she's primary!). I also pay ALL the houshold bills of which ex contributes nothing to yet ex lives in the house a few days per week for free (when she's not staying with her new partner).
The CMS allowance that I have been paying I know that she has been spending almost all of it on herself and not on our child.
Until now the CMS allowance has been a private agreement between me and ex.
However, now that I have reduced the monthly CMS payment to ex she is now going to CMS to make a case against me. Obviously she wants to get as much money from me as possible.
My understanding is that if I am deemed the primary carer then the ex should be paying me?? However she is on a low part-time salary so she couldn't afford to do so most likely.
Should I contact CMS myself to explain the situation and get a financial assesment done so I know what I should officially be paying/not paying for the allowance?
Or would contacting CMS be a bad idea and possibly worsen the matter?
Would be grateful for some advice from anyone with experience or in a similar situation.
Thanks in advance.
I have been over-paying CMS to ex for the best part of a year even though my child is with me half the time (often more than half the time) in my house and I would consider myself as primary carer (although ex seems to thinks she's primary!). I also pay ALL the houshold bills of which ex contributes nothing to yet ex lives in the house a few days per week for free (when she's not staying with her new partner).
The CMS allowance that I have been paying I know that she has been spending almost all of it on herself and not on our child.
Until now the CMS allowance has been a private agreement between me and ex.
However, now that I have reduced the monthly CMS payment to ex she is now going to CMS to make a case against me. Obviously she wants to get as much money from me as possible.
My understanding is that if I am deemed the primary carer then the ex should be paying me?? However she is on a low part-time salary so she couldn't afford to do so most likely.
Should I contact CMS myself to explain the situation and get a financial assesment done so I know what I should officially be paying/not paying for the allowance?
Or would contacting CMS be a bad idea and possibly worsen the matter?
Would be grateful for some advice from anyone with experience or in a similar situation.
Thanks in advance.