Morning all,
So an update, and will try and keep this short. I was in court last week and was granted 4 hours every other weekend interim contact. My first day was Sunday just gone and I’m arrival the kids were refusing to come, saying they didn’t want to come with me as they don’t know the person nominated as my “supervisor” and don’t want to know them or get to know them, as they could be a horrible person. I strongly feel there alienation going on here.. anyway, after some discussions with the ex, I left the house childless.. I went home thought for a while and came up with a solution that if her 16 year old son (not my son) were allowed to come too then 2 of my 3 kids would come. So I went back collected the my 2 and her 16 year old and went off. The kids refused to get in my car and so had to walk in the car. On the day out (2hrs 45mins as the mother collected them early) we got on absolutely fine, had fun, laughs and a great time. The kids even interacted with the supervisor a little and appeared to get along. When mother collected them she had allegedly received messages from my eldest (11) and her 16 yr old stating they were feeling uncomfortable, the supervisor wasn’t staying away and was getting too involved which they don’t like, and they wasn’t having a good time. I was gobsmacked at this as none of them mentioned anything to me and as far as I was aware all was happy.
I feel like the 16yr old was only sent as a spy and to report back to mum what was happening, and I see he was constantly texting her, I also see a few times my daughter was also texting her.
Now the ex is saying we need to rethink these arrangements, she’s “taken it further” as the kids ain’t happy.
I feel at bit of a loose end here on what to do next as I don’t want a repeat of Sunday on my next visit.
Any advice it views?
Cheers
J
So an update, and will try and keep this short. I was in court last week and was granted 4 hours every other weekend interim contact. My first day was Sunday just gone and I’m arrival the kids were refusing to come, saying they didn’t want to come with me as they don’t know the person nominated as my “supervisor” and don’t want to know them or get to know them, as they could be a horrible person. I strongly feel there alienation going on here.. anyway, after some discussions with the ex, I left the house childless.. I went home thought for a while and came up with a solution that if her 16 year old son (not my son) were allowed to come too then 2 of my 3 kids would come. So I went back collected the my 2 and her 16 year old and went off. The kids refused to get in my car and so had to walk in the car. On the day out (2hrs 45mins as the mother collected them early) we got on absolutely fine, had fun, laughs and a great time. The kids even interacted with the supervisor a little and appeared to get along. When mother collected them she had allegedly received messages from my eldest (11) and her 16 yr old stating they were feeling uncomfortable, the supervisor wasn’t staying away and was getting too involved which they don’t like, and they wasn’t having a good time. I was gobsmacked at this as none of them mentioned anything to me and as far as I was aware all was happy.
I feel like the 16yr old was only sent as a spy and to report back to mum what was happening, and I see he was constantly texting her, I also see a few times my daughter was also texting her.
Now the ex is saying we need to rethink these arrangements, she’s “taken it further” as the kids ain’t happy.
I feel at bit of a loose end here on what to do next as I don’t want a repeat of Sunday on my next visit.
Any advice it views?
Cheers
J