Child care issues

[Cristiano80]

Hello

After a bit of advice

Split with partner of ten years recently, and having issues with child care responsibilities

Short story
I work full time, 168 shift, four on four off. She works part-time time 16 hrs a week from home.

On my four off I pretty much have our son full time apart from one evening I have to myself.

She is demanding I find child care for the days we are both working. Would I be unreasonable for refusing as I feel I provide enough time? She is the parent with care/resident parent. As a token gesture I have offered to find care for one of the days (she needs two)

Advice/experiences welcome

 

[Cristiano80]

Hello

After a bit of advice

Split with partner of ten years recently, and having issues with child care responsibilities

Short story
I work full time, 168 shift, four on four off. She works part-time time 16 hrs a week from home.

On my four off I pretty much have our son full time apart from one evening I have to myself.

She is demanding I find child care for the days we are both working. Would I be unreasonable for refusing as I feel I provide enough time? She is the parent with care/resident parent. As a token gesture I have offered to find care for one of the days (she needs two)

Advice/experiences welcome

I forgot to mention I have two jobs, on my days off I work from home with our son present

 

[Jumper85]

I don't think you're being unreasonable personally. Are you paying CMS and is she claiming child benefit? If so, then she should be covering her own childcare expenses.

 

[Cristiano80]

Yes I am paying child maintenance and she is on UC with the child benefit and also PIP

 

[Nanaforsonsjustice]

Yes I am paying child maintenance and she is on UC with the child benefit and also PIP

How old is your child?

 

[Cristiano80]

He is 10

 

[Ash]

How is she the parent with care if you have your son half the time (4 days of your 4 days on, 4 days off shift)?

Are there any court orders in place, or parenting agreements as to who has the child when?

 

[Cristiano80]

How is she the parent with care if you have your son half the time (4 days of your 4 days on, 4 days off shift)?

Are there any court orders in place, or parenting agreements as to who has the child when?

I have him for two nights, but most of the days I'm off

No court orders in place