Hey there.
I have two kids. My son is 14. My daughter is 11. I have been separated for 9 years. We’ve had a private arrangement regarding access to the kids. I have them 4 nights on week 1 and 3 on week 2. So 50-50.
I’m originally from an English speaking country abroad, and have been to court, twice so far, trying to get permission to take the kids there. Court have said it’s fine, but have stated that their mum is to attend as well, and the kids are to spend 1 night with her in the middle of the holiday so they don’t miss her. Court have said this as she said she was happy for the kids to go as long as she could go too, however, outside of the court, she is refusing to go. She then wanted to take the kids on a cruise through Europe for a weekend and needed their passports. I said I’d be happy for them to go but wanted to talk over a few issues at mediation (she is addicted to cannabis, last time she went without it for more than 2 days she went out of control). She refused mediation and cancelled the trip. In the meantime, my son was texting me saying if you don’t give mum the passports, I’m not coming back to yours. Then the cruise got cancelled and I haven’t seen him since April. He has since broken into my house to steal his passport, egged my car and my house. I’ve been messaging him to see how he’s going, asking about his summer etc. All I get back from him is negative messages. I know she’s been saying nasty things about me over the years (my son said “mum says you don’t pay a penny towards us” when I got into an argument with him about the state of his room he said “mum says you should be cleaning it while I’m with her”).
Anyway, my ex has now started keeping my daughter an extra day a week without asking me. She says it’s for the best. Even though we had the same routine for 9 years. I’ve now forked out for a solicitor and a court case is set for October (the first hearing). In the meantime should I just allow her to keep my daughter the extra day? I don’t want to upset my daughter by causing any aggravation. Although I obviously don’t want to miss out seeing her on one of my days with her. Should I just let it go until it goes to court?
Thanks
I have two kids. My son is 14. My daughter is 11. I have been separated for 9 years. We’ve had a private arrangement regarding access to the kids. I have them 4 nights on week 1 and 3 on week 2. So 50-50.
I’m originally from an English speaking country abroad, and have been to court, twice so far, trying to get permission to take the kids there. Court have said it’s fine, but have stated that their mum is to attend as well, and the kids are to spend 1 night with her in the middle of the holiday so they don’t miss her. Court have said this as she said she was happy for the kids to go as long as she could go too, however, outside of the court, she is refusing to go. She then wanted to take the kids on a cruise through Europe for a weekend and needed their passports. I said I’d be happy for them to go but wanted to talk over a few issues at mediation (she is addicted to cannabis, last time she went without it for more than 2 days she went out of control). She refused mediation and cancelled the trip. In the meantime, my son was texting me saying if you don’t give mum the passports, I’m not coming back to yours. Then the cruise got cancelled and I haven’t seen him since April. He has since broken into my house to steal his passport, egged my car and my house. I’ve been messaging him to see how he’s going, asking about his summer etc. All I get back from him is negative messages. I know she’s been saying nasty things about me over the years (my son said “mum says you don’t pay a penny towards us” when I got into an argument with him about the state of his room he said “mum says you should be cleaning it while I’m with her”).
Anyway, my ex has now started keeping my daughter an extra day a week without asking me. She says it’s for the best. Even though we had the same routine for 9 years. I’ve now forked out for a solicitor and a court case is set for October (the first hearing). In the meantime should I just allow her to keep my daughter the extra day? I don’t want to upset my daughter by causing any aggravation. Although I obviously don’t want to miss out seeing her on one of my days with her. Should I just let it go until it goes to court?
Thanks
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