Hi all,
I have my first CAFCASS call early next week ahead of my FHDRA just over a couple of weeks later.
Ex has made a number of very serious allegations, in particular physically assaulting her and harming our child. Got arrested, then NFA’d. As that didn’t work ex got a NMO on me. Social services are backing ex up and think I’m a horrific abuser.
I’m sure she would have spoken to Cafcass already and given them a big list of allegations. Thanks to the great advice on here, I know to keep child focused, deny allegations and not slag off the ex in any way.
My mental health has suffered badly as a result of time with my child being significantly restricted, and I have been having counselling via my GP for depression and anxiety. Due to only being able to have a limited number of sessions I’ve been discharged back to my GP although my counsellor noted my symptoms have been improving. If Cafcass ask about my mental health at all, should I admit I’ve been struggling a bit or just deny it as I worry ex will use it against me? I won’t bring attention to it unless asked and I probably think honesty is the best policy as they could check my GP records anyway.
The other question is that I wanted to mediate over child and financial arrangements but it was clear ex was only interested in financial discussions. If Cafcass ask anything about mediation, how do you think it’s best to word this without slagging off the ex?
Feeling very worried. The family centre let me know yesterday that ex has cancelled a supervised session which was due to take place a couple of days after my FHDRA (been having supervised time for 3 months now with glowing reports). Reading about how Cafcass have let so many dads down on here my minds been going into overdrive thinking that Cafcass have already spoken to ex and social services and due to the severity of her allegations have already said to her they will suggest no contact…
Thanks for any advice.
I have my first CAFCASS call early next week ahead of my FHDRA just over a couple of weeks later.
Ex has made a number of very serious allegations, in particular physically assaulting her and harming our child. Got arrested, then NFA’d. As that didn’t work ex got a NMO on me. Social services are backing ex up and think I’m a horrific abuser.
I’m sure she would have spoken to Cafcass already and given them a big list of allegations. Thanks to the great advice on here, I know to keep child focused, deny allegations and not slag off the ex in any way.
My mental health has suffered badly as a result of time with my child being significantly restricted, and I have been having counselling via my GP for depression and anxiety. Due to only being able to have a limited number of sessions I’ve been discharged back to my GP although my counsellor noted my symptoms have been improving. If Cafcass ask about my mental health at all, should I admit I’ve been struggling a bit or just deny it as I worry ex will use it against me? I won’t bring attention to it unless asked and I probably think honesty is the best policy as they could check my GP records anyway.
The other question is that I wanted to mediate over child and financial arrangements but it was clear ex was only interested in financial discussions. If Cafcass ask anything about mediation, how do you think it’s best to word this without slagging off the ex?
Feeling very worried. The family centre let me know yesterday that ex has cancelled a supervised session which was due to take place a couple of days after my FHDRA (been having supervised time for 3 months now with glowing reports). Reading about how Cafcass have let so many dads down on here my minds been going into overdrive thinking that Cafcass have already spoken to ex and social services and due to the severity of her allegations have already said to her they will suggest no contact…
Thanks for any advice.