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Hi,

Currently applying to court...


My bail states I cannot contact my ex other than via 3rd party for child access..

Im lost to who I can use.... I can't use her parents or family.

Is there a neutral person to contact??
 
If you make an application to court the court will serve the court application on her for you and send her the date for the court. It won’t be a breach of bail for the court to send her the documents.
 
What really angers me is she agreed for mediation and was due to have our first mediation session soon.

She then had the nerve to tell the mediators she didn't know what she was agreeing to when she agreed my bail terms...
 
Hi,

Currently applying to court...


My bail states I cannot contact my ex other than via 3rd party for child access..

Im lost to who I can use.... I can't use her parents or family.

Is there a neutral person to contact??
Sounds.to me like you would need to use a solicitor, or if she has one then contact them instead.
 
The police know all this and do their best to keep bail term lengths as short as possible. Depending on your case, this might be a few days to a few weeks. Just accept that you can't have any contact and concentrate on your strategy for when bail is lifted. The most important things are:

1. do NOT tell your ex, you plans - this is number one rule, if you try and be reasonable and nice, it will simply be used against you.
2. Gather and preserve evidence
3. prep court forms for filing
4. Be prepared for the next salvo your ex will do once the bail is dropped , e.g. NMO
5. If you drink or do drugs - stop now
 
The police know all this and do their best to keep bail term lengths as short as possible. Depending on your case, this might be a few days to a few weeks. Just accept that you can't have any contact and concentrate on your strategy for when bail is lifted. The most important things are:

1. do NOT tell your ex, you plans - this is number one rule, if you try and be reasonable and nice, it will simply be used against you.
2. Gather and preserve evidence
3. prep court forms for filing
4. Be prepared for the next salvo your ex will do once the bail is dropped , e.g. NMO
5. If you drink or do drugs - stop now


Thank you, I guess family court will not proceed whilst I have bail terms that say I cannot have contact?


I currently have a 3 month bail.... And my solicitor suggested I will rebailed multiple times as its likely to take years to get to court.
 
Thank you, I guess family court will not proceed whilst I have bail terms that say I cannot have contact?


I currently have a 3 month bail.... And my solicitor suggested I will rebailed multiple times as its likely to take years to get to court.
that depends, have you been charged with anything yet? Don't feel you have to give details in the forum, but take some comfort that many of us her have had the police on their doorstep, including me.
 
that depends, have you been charged with anything yet? Don't feel you have to give details in the forum, but take some comfort that many of us her have had the police on their doorstep, including me.
No, and a charge seems years away according to the solicitor.

Similar cases have taken years to reach court if they ever do.
 
Bail was never intended to last that long. You can request that the bail is modified so that you can see your children, but would depend on what the investigations is about and may require contact centre supervision to be set up.
 
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