Awful outcome from an awful system.

[Razbert]

“You may not be partners anymore but you will always be parents. It’s important that your children’s needs are prioritised, and they have a positive relationship with both of you. When parents demonise each other in front of their children or get a child to take sides, they can be damaging to their kids. A child knows they are a product of their parents, and so when one says awful things about the other, the children may grow up believing they are bad too, often harbouring guilt and self-loathing.”

Some very wise words from Ammanda Major, clinical director with Relate. This message is often missing from the authorities whose job is prioritising the needs of children, and assume when a mother demonises the child's father, that he is in fact a demon. It's unfortunately left to the creaking court system to undo the harm done to children by the misguided do-gooders who side with misguided mothers.

‘I’m 62, my parents divorced when I was six. It’s cast a shadow over my life ever since’

Also read the comments from this well written Telegraph article.

 

[Peanut 21]

It is very sad. Children carry the guilt and shame their whole lives. Someone's fragile ego contaminates so many other lives.

 

[Peanut 21]

I read the article.
I always thought the next best thing for kids with separated parents is parents who can be at least civil and then if they get new partners there's a whole load of new adults to love them.