Anything you wish you put in a court order?

[Maloney]

I'm drafting up my proposal of a parenting plan to send across to the STBE for agreement.

She is a nasty piece of work and very scheming, so if there anything that you should always include?

I think I have covered most things, but wondering if there were any tips.

A good one from the other day, was define when the school holiday starts and ends.

 

[Peanut 21]

Make it as clear and exact as possible so there's no room for interpretation.

So if for example you collect the kids on a Friday for the weekend, suggest picking them up from school. Ideally you'd have them all weekend and drop them to school on a Monday. That way you avoid the ex and going near her house completely.

Holidays make it clear with weeks. Eg, week 1 and 3 of summer hols in year 1, weeks 2 and 4 year 2 etc.
Make pick up and drop offs the same day and time.
If it's easy for you, suggest you do all pick up and drop offs. Not only does it
* give you more time with the kids
* you'll prevent any tricks from her like late drop offs and winding the kids up in the car
* you sell it to her she doesn't have to use her time/money/fuel

 

[DannyK]

ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS pick up from school - NEVER from Ex house.

 

[bujanin]

ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS pick up from school - NEVER from Ex house.

Don't forget to take the holidays into account when school drop off isn't possible. It could be a neutral drop off point, depending on the age of the child you might not have to get too close to the mother but able to keep the child in view while they walk to her.