Ex left late last year. 2 awesome children that I now am not seeing due to her use of the playbook (Have got undertakings after the obligatory non mol attempt but thats another story). C100 about to be submitted. I play online with my boy (with voice chat) at least 4 times a week and speak to my daughter at least once...... but not being allowed to see them in person (my ex's position) even though she was advised its better to sort the access to them outside of court at the non mol hearing. Its just beyond comprehension.
The way i've been treated even makes me nervous of doing this post and it being used against me somehow, its horrid feeling this way...... every day is another anxious wait for the next crap thing to happen as you all now. I've even altered the detail slighty (but still a accurate picture) for fear of it being found.
With regard to the finances, we were together 16 years and married for less that 1 year (go figure huh!). I'm the sole name of the mortgage but shes slapped a thing on the deeds so I cant sell or remortgage right now). I always paid the mortgage, all bills and also gave her money to bolster her earnings every month after she was made redundant. I paid for all family outings, extra expenses....... I could go on. I brought 50K into the relationship when we purchased the family home and then remortgaged several times to spend around 70K on holidays and home improvements (renovated throughout and an extension). My solicitor is not convinced I can may not be able to ring fence the 50K and label the 70K as matrimonial debt. I'm also in financial sh*** due to solicitors and other debts accurced during the relationship and after we split.
I'm so glad I found this forum and find it horrific that many get treated so badly after doing everything to build a family life and ensure its security. it deffo helps to write it down and try and get some more experienced perspective.
Any thoughts on any of it are very welcome, the finances are key at the moment as this outcome will be life changing whatever happens?????
Thanks and good luck to everyone on here........ we've got this
The way i've been treated even makes me nervous of doing this post and it being used against me somehow, its horrid feeling this way...... every day is another anxious wait for the next crap thing to happen as you all now. I've even altered the detail slighty (but still a accurate picture) for fear of it being found.
With regard to the finances, we were together 16 years and married for less that 1 year (go figure huh!). I'm the sole name of the mortgage but shes slapped a thing on the deeds so I cant sell or remortgage right now). I always paid the mortgage, all bills and also gave her money to bolster her earnings every month after she was made redundant. I paid for all family outings, extra expenses....... I could go on. I brought 50K into the relationship when we purchased the family home and then remortgaged several times to spend around 70K on holidays and home improvements (renovated throughout and an extension). My solicitor is not convinced I can may not be able to ring fence the 50K and label the 70K as matrimonial debt. I'm also in financial sh*** due to solicitors and other debts accurced during the relationship and after we split.
I'm so glad I found this forum and find it horrific that many get treated so badly after doing everything to build a family life and ensure its security. it deffo helps to write it down and try and get some more experienced perspective.
Any thoughts on any of it are very welcome, the finances are key at the moment as this outcome will be life changing whatever happens?????
Thanks and good luck to everyone on here........ we've got this
I repeat this to myself over and over aaaaaaaalot to try and stay positive, a from quote Dana White "F***ing bet against me, tell me it’s not going to happen, tell me it’s going to fail. I love it, I love every minute of it"