Some quick points:
Been married for almost 15 years
4 kids- 7, 9, 12, and 13 years old
I have a six figure income job
Wife doesn't work, but inherited millions from her family (That I have no interest in nor do I have any control over)
Without getting into the details, I fear my wife and I are coming to an end. Constant arguing. Sexless marriage and I basically live in the basement.
My issues: As I mentioned, my wife is wealthy and her family is wealthy. I grew up in a poor, single parent household. I joined the Marines, went to college using the GI Bill and my own money, and worked hard and long to get where I am today. I live in a state where non-comingled inheritance isn't marital property. However, each year my mother-in-law gifts my wife, me, and each of our children $15,000 a piece. This has been going on for about 13 years. However, I didn't even know about this gift until about 3 years after it started. My wife then, and now, literally signs my name to my check and deposits it into her inheritance account. She does withdrawal money out of this account each month in order to pay for certain things. We own our house outright and both of our names are on the deed. I pay for all the household expenses, sans some groceries that she purchases from time to time and she purchases most of the children's clothes. However, due to her lifestyle demands, and even though I make good money, I live paycheck to paycheck. "She" is a millionaire and as such everything from the property taxes ($32,000/year) to the regular household bills are astronomical. $500-$600 electric, $400-$800 water bills depending on if it's summer and irrigation is needed for the lawn, home gas, eating out 3-5 times per week, $600+ per week grocery bills, $12k per year home insurance...etc, etc...Really drains nearly all of my paychecks. I also have credit card debt just to keep up with her demanding lifestyle.
I would have probably left her a long time ago if not for the children. My kids and I have a wonderful relationship and I can't stand the thought of being away from them. When divorce has come up, she always says, "You'll be sorry when I leave your ass. Me and my family will fight you tooth and nail. We have the money to do it and you don't." She's threatened to "make sure I pay through the nose for child support and only get to see my kids as little as possible."
There has never been any violence, drugs, alcohol issues...
Has anyone had any similar stories? How was the divorce handled? Any advice?
Been married for almost 15 years
4 kids- 7, 9, 12, and 13 years old
I have a six figure income job
Wife doesn't work, but inherited millions from her family (That I have no interest in nor do I have any control over)
Without getting into the details, I fear my wife and I are coming to an end. Constant arguing. Sexless marriage and I basically live in the basement.
My issues: As I mentioned, my wife is wealthy and her family is wealthy. I grew up in a poor, single parent household. I joined the Marines, went to college using the GI Bill and my own money, and worked hard and long to get where I am today. I live in a state where non-comingled inheritance isn't marital property. However, each year my mother-in-law gifts my wife, me, and each of our children $15,000 a piece. This has been going on for about 13 years. However, I didn't even know about this gift until about 3 years after it started. My wife then, and now, literally signs my name to my check and deposits it into her inheritance account. She does withdrawal money out of this account each month in order to pay for certain things. We own our house outright and both of our names are on the deed. I pay for all the household expenses, sans some groceries that she purchases from time to time and she purchases most of the children's clothes. However, due to her lifestyle demands, and even though I make good money, I live paycheck to paycheck. "She" is a millionaire and as such everything from the property taxes ($32,000/year) to the regular household bills are astronomical. $500-$600 electric, $400-$800 water bills depending on if it's summer and irrigation is needed for the lawn, home gas, eating out 3-5 times per week, $600+ per week grocery bills, $12k per year home insurance...etc, etc...Really drains nearly all of my paychecks. I also have credit card debt just to keep up with her demanding lifestyle.
I would have probably left her a long time ago if not for the children. My kids and I have a wonderful relationship and I can't stand the thought of being away from them. When divorce has come up, she always says, "You'll be sorry when I leave your ass. Me and my family will fight you tooth and nail. We have the money to do it and you don't." She's threatened to "make sure I pay through the nose for child support and only get to see my kids as little as possible."
There has never been any violence, drugs, alcohol issues...
Has anyone had any similar stories? How was the divorce handled? Any advice?
