Merry Christmas everyone!
I went through court last year to put in place a child arrangement order for an equal split, and whilst it was partly successful, they took into no consideration our family life and the Christmas arrangements and we now have a very disjointed order in place.
I’ve put this to my ex, who is likely to respond to say that it’s all my own doing and that they don’t wish to participate in any discussions.
With that, I presume I’m back down the mediation and court process again?
The amendment would be to have Christmas so it’s functional: Christmas Eve and Christmas Day with one parent, Boxing Day and the next with the other and to swap each year.
At present there is a weird time split, which is from 23rd to 27th, which was ordered by the court, even though they agreed with the plan above and said it was ‘normal’ to order that.
My amendment would give both families time to travel and spend time with each other, rather than be constricted.
This particularly affects me, as my partner’s family, who live 200 miles away, never get to see her, but also affects my ex, who has tried to make plans during the period my daughter is with. I now feel pressured into agreeing, which may cause me to have less time with her than the court has ordered.
This clearly doesn’t work for either of us, but my ex won’t see it like that.
Hopefully that all makes sense. I understand that it’s often tricky to understand the intricacies of others arrangements.
Is this grounds enough to seek an amendment?
Thanks!
I went through court last year to put in place a child arrangement order for an equal split, and whilst it was partly successful, they took into no consideration our family life and the Christmas arrangements and we now have a very disjointed order in place.
I’ve put this to my ex, who is likely to respond to say that it’s all my own doing and that they don’t wish to participate in any discussions.
With that, I presume I’m back down the mediation and court process again?
The amendment would be to have Christmas so it’s functional: Christmas Eve and Christmas Day with one parent, Boxing Day and the next with the other and to swap each year.
At present there is a weird time split, which is from 23rd to 27th, which was ordered by the court, even though they agreed with the plan above and said it was ‘normal’ to order that.
My amendment would give both families time to travel and spend time with each other, rather than be constricted.
This particularly affects me, as my partner’s family, who live 200 miles away, never get to see her, but also affects my ex, who has tried to make plans during the period my daughter is with. I now feel pressured into agreeing, which may cause me to have less time with her than the court has ordered.
This clearly doesn’t work for either of us, but my ex won’t see it like that.
Hopefully that all makes sense. I understand that it’s often tricky to understand the intricacies of others arrangements.
Is this grounds enough to seek an amendment?
Thanks!