Last month Ash posted a really helpful website in the legal resources section about PA in law. I only saw it last night.
There's a part that cafcass uses to identify alienating behaviours in the alienating parent which is useful. Anyone noticing alienating behaviours in their case can use the below as a checklist and adapt the wording and use it in any statements they will use before a hearing.
There's a part that cafcass uses to identify alienating behaviours in the alienating parent which is useful. Anyone noticing alienating behaviours in their case can use the below as a checklist and adapt the wording and use it in any statements they will use before a hearing.
- Actively denigrates and exaggerates flaws of the other parent to the child, directly or indirectly e.g. may ask others to do this also.
- A resident parent with authority over all aspects of a child’s life but abdicates parental responsibility regarding the relationship with the other parent (e.g. ‘I won’t make them do something they don’t want to do.’)
- A resident parent who will not ‘force’ or ‘drag’ a child to contact and uses those or other negatively loaded terms.
- Coaches or instructs the child in what to say to professionals and others about negative experiences of the rejected parent.
- Where a resident parent applies to the court to reduce the amount of time the child spends with the other parent, particularly where there have been previous proceedings, and there appear to be no safety or welfare issues.
- Where a resident parent moves locality without agreement and a shared care arrangement or significant contact arrangement becomes unworkable.
- Refusal to hear positive comments about other parent; quick to discount child’s good times as trivial and unimportant.
- Overt and covert threats to withdraw love and affection from child unless other parent, and/or siblings that live with the other parent, are rejected.
- Expresses no concern or empathy that the child is missing out on a previously positive relationship with the other parent. Is disinterested in the impact this may have on their development and identity.
- Portrays the other parent as dangerous (and this is not justified). False or fabricated allegations of physical abuse, sexual, and/or emotional abuse or a single incident has disproportionate levels of fear or risk associated.
- Telephone messages, gifts, and communications from the other parent to child are persistently destroyed, ignored, or passed on to the child with disdain.
- False information repeated to child; distorts history and may make false allegations to professionals and in court proceedings.
- Does not correct child’s rude, defiant behaviour directed toward the other parent but would not permit child to do this with others.
- Is reluctant to allow professionals to make arrangements to see the child privately or tries to exert control over the enquiries the professional makes.
- Makes the child aware of their own distress and emotional fragility.
- Where a resident parent insists on being present (in person or on media) during contact time that has been assessed as safe or where it has been previously agreed was safe, without significant event to alter this view.
- Makes complaints against professionals for harming the children by promoting time with the other parent.
. Talk about cutting your nose off! So since then I don’t even bother responding a lot of the time unless necessary. For example send swimsuit back for swimming. It’s a shame because I would be more than happy for FaceTimes while apart but she’s been that nasty about such things and she is also extremely stubborn and arrogant she wound rather say no than accept my offer! Bonkers! It was my exs mum who used to play more obvious games. I would get Phonecalls from her which i wouldn’t answer but then message immediately to ask if there was an emergency. She would then reply saying pocket call. Total nonsense! I’m more sure what her agenda was I can only assume. She also used to do this when xxxx was in her company and all I cooks hear was xxxxx talking etc on the other end. Pocket call my ass! This is the same woman who sent metal handcuffs down with my daughter after me doing a voluntary police interview after false allegations (obviously NFA’d). Then another time my exs mum booked an holiday without my knowledge and then when I found out after then letting courts know availability she then refused to tell me where. Eventually i agreed after they signed a form saying they won’t do it again and will give me full details etc before booking. After agreeing and in retaliation she stuck a napkin in my daughters football kit bath which she knows I clean every other 2 weeks. It’s was a napkin from a restaurant from their previous holiday they went on without letting me know. I had no res presentation at this point so wasn’t aware of my rights etc. nicely tucked in amongst football shorts and shirts. The woman’s a maniac! Parental alienation is not just inflicted by my ex it can also be other family members. My exs mum also throws things daughters taken back in the past as well. Vile people! In time I really hope it becomes a law and people can prosecute or counter prosecute. I suppose the good thing is awareness of such behaviour is becoming more in the spotlight and the people who are on the receiving end of it just need to hope they get a judge who is proper touched up on it and done his homework