Hi all,
New here but have been reading through some of the posts and hoped I could receive some advice.
This is a long post so
TLDR:
Late last year my ex-partner walked out of our jointly-owned home with our kids and has been staying with her mother in overcrowded conditions. she is making subtle threats have been made of 'contacting CSA' etc. if I don't give her money for rent.
Our son, is now 4 and my ex was obsessed with having him diagnosed as autistic. The doctor reviewed him and said she didn't feel he was autistic but simply a little behind but that he would catch up as he starts school.
I made the argument that when he starts school they will report if he is struggling with certain things and that will help prove it but she would not listen to anyone who disagreed with her. I later found out the reason she is desperate for this diagnosis is because she would be entitled to DLA money.
She then left and I thought she'd just taken the kids to the park.
I have spent almost every weekend traveling to seeing my children as well as my step-children, treating them to days out, asking them how they are feeling and showing a united front with their mother. Initially our relationship was very positive and almost as if we were not living apart, but I found this confusing as my ex would tell me she loved me but can't live in our house anymore and after voicing my concerns she turned cold towards me.
It is my intention to obtain custody of my children to spend as much time with their paternal family as possible due to a terminal diagnosis in the family. My ex is wanting me to pay £500 a month but won't sign over the mortgage to me where I live.
I feel like I am being extorted for money despite being able to provide for my children in the house they actually lived in.
Any help please?
New here but have been reading through some of the posts and hoped I could receive some advice.
This is a long post so
TLDR:
Late last year my ex-partner walked out of our jointly-owned home with our kids and has been staying with her mother in overcrowded conditions. she is making subtle threats have been made of 'contacting CSA' etc. if I don't give her money for rent.
Our son, is now 4 and my ex was obsessed with having him diagnosed as autistic. The doctor reviewed him and said she didn't feel he was autistic but simply a little behind but that he would catch up as he starts school.
I made the argument that when he starts school they will report if he is struggling with certain things and that will help prove it but she would not listen to anyone who disagreed with her. I later found out the reason she is desperate for this diagnosis is because she would be entitled to DLA money.
She then left and I thought she'd just taken the kids to the park.
I have spent almost every weekend traveling to seeing my children as well as my step-children, treating them to days out, asking them how they are feeling and showing a united front with their mother. Initially our relationship was very positive and almost as if we were not living apart, but I found this confusing as my ex would tell me she loved me but can't live in our house anymore and after voicing my concerns she turned cold towards me.
It is my intention to obtain custody of my children to spend as much time with their paternal family as possible due to a terminal diagnosis in the family. My ex is wanting me to pay £500 a month but won't sign over the mortgage to me where I live.
I feel like I am being extorted for money despite being able to provide for my children in the house they actually lived in.
Any help please?
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