Hi all new too this forum just looking for some advice.
Split with my baby mum few years ago now, ever since it’s been very toxic more so on her half. I try to be the bigger person, tried for a good few years now to be civil and amicable with her but always ends up in never ending circles.
She doesn’t communicate at all with me about our son and when she does, I always have to ask and the input is very very minimal.
She has lied to me multiple times about our son, introduced him to her boyfriend and then allowed her boyfriend to sleep at her house after one time of meeting him, but I wasn’t allowed for months to have him sleep at my partners. Her mum smokes weed and I have smelt weed in the house multiple time upon drop off, but she denies it and denies her mum does it in the house. I do not trust her in the slightest. The list can go on and on, she doesn’t adequately care for him in my opinion, doesn’t brush his hair, clean face before school, clothes have smelt bad and looked like they haven’t been ironed in weeks. (I have proof of all this)
Just wondering what I should do going forward about custody or contacting some form of help? I have offered to go 50/50 custody with her but she has declined.
Split with my baby mum few years ago now, ever since it’s been very toxic more so on her half. I try to be the bigger person, tried for a good few years now to be civil and amicable with her but always ends up in never ending circles.
She doesn’t communicate at all with me about our son and when she does, I always have to ask and the input is very very minimal.
She has lied to me multiple times about our son, introduced him to her boyfriend and then allowed her boyfriend to sleep at her house after one time of meeting him, but I wasn’t allowed for months to have him sleep at my partners. Her mum smokes weed and I have smelt weed in the house multiple time upon drop off, but she denies it and denies her mum does it in the house. I do not trust her in the slightest. The list can go on and on, she doesn’t adequately care for him in my opinion, doesn’t brush his hair, clean face before school, clothes have smelt bad and looked like they haven’t been ironed in weeks. (I have proof of all this)
Just wondering what I should do going forward about custody or contacting some form of help? I have offered to go 50/50 custody with her but she has declined.