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and this is me too. I just came back from a walk, exactly to take care of me, just some fresh air.... but I had to come back home, for I am not going to exaggerate if I tell you that I started to feel pain, physically, in my heart, as soon as I started to seeing all the fathers with their children outside. I had a military education, I am solid, and mentally strong... but it is being challenging. And do not get me wrong, I was expecting the divorce to be challenging, obviously, what I wasn't expecting is the mother of my children being that evil, and acting against their wellbeing. And what I was not expecting is the system supporting her, despite the truth is in front of everyone's eyes! The more I think about it, the more I regret that I did the famous "right thing". "Right" for who? For the lawyers' pockets, probably!!! I regret I got divorced, despite the toxic environment that we had in the house. But at least I was near my children. And no matter how many books I can read, I will always be haunted by this regret.There was a a really good post that someone else wrote about how they could not go the shops during the day because they saw families together or could not look at the kids pictures. That is also basically me.
I see.... thanks. One more absurdity, by the way.... she can easily obtain - through false allegations - not to be contacted*, even if the children are with her; while the person who is actually being the victim cannot even complain.... wow....I don't think that's a good idea Fabio. It will count against you in court. It'll be classed as "conflict between parents" and they'll give the children to the Mother then. And it's hard to prove. Courts just see parents making allegations as parents fighting instead of focusing on the kids.
Indeed is what they reply to me all the time, for any issue! Let see, thanks!I totally get you though because it's hell and it is emotional abuse. IME police, social services etc just see this as post separation stuff that happens all the time - they are powerless if the kids are with a parent and would just tell you to apply to court.
Well, I did both. I write to the court, as you suggested, but also I prepared the form with the solicitor and sent yesterday. Today we received the answer. And no directions! This is absurd!I am very sorry to hear that. It's probably because they can see you have a hearing listed in September. Were there no directions issued at all? Did the solicitor ask for the urgent hearing or did you send it yourself? It was worth a try.
You will just have to hope she doesn't move the kids before schools start in September.
At this stage I would bend over backwards to try and get any time at all agreed with the kids and send very polite courteous communications. Although you've been told not to contact her or she'll claim harrassment.
So you'll need to rely on this solicitor sending a letter to her solicitor saying she must allow you to see the children and a proposal for dates.
It's because your ex has a solicitor.This is getting nastier and nastier,
Yes, I rely on that. But they keep answering with false allegation, and the all conversation is about they say something that is a lie, and we answer back with evidence that they are lying (eg. My lawyer wirte: They should spend 50% of the time with the father" Their reply: "no, the father agreed they would stay the entire summer with the mother" reply of my solicitor: "this is the message where the mother agreed with the father about 50/50) . But it is a trench warfare which is leading no where! At least in terms of my goals, which is, seeing the kids!You're going to be reliant on solicitor negotiations until the hearing. Yours needs to write back emphatically denying such allegations and stating that she must allow you to see the children as before.