Despite having an order granting me every other weekend, that I had to fight for following initial contact denial supported with welfare allegations of alcoholism, that was disproven with Hair Strand testing, my sons mother caught me off guard in the run-up to Christmas, and her gaslighting antics caused me to get emotional, (I broke down crying on the phone and during the handover attempt at my house, after a very stressful week) she then used that emotion to breach the order, deny me further contact and claim that I am mentally unstable as justification!
Attempts to reason with her failed, and after 3 weeks of texting her to resolve and two missed contact dates, she told me not to contact her again, so I submitted a C79 application for an Enforcement Order.
The CAFCASS safeguarding report prior to the enforcement hearing has been an interesting read. A single paragraph from me explaining what happened on that day. Three pages and 10 paragraphs from the ex dragging up the past, present and somehow, seeing into the future!
Despite alleging that I have severe mental health issues and my son will not be safe in my care unless I undergo psychiatric treatment that the court must oversee!! She has admitted to CAFCASS as suffering from anxiety, but claims it is managed without the need for medication!
To use the hurt and distress that I experienced from being tormented on that day and being denied access to my son, as a means of labelling me mentally unstable to further justify denying me access to him, takes some fathoming. This is called gaslighting. The deception of a person’s memory, perception of reality or mental stability.
Studies have shown that gaslighting is more prevalent in people who have maladaptive personality traits such as those associated with short-term mental illness...like anxiety disorder!
So, the person with the mental illness, is accusing me of having a mental illness!! The person who is harming my sons welfare, is accusing me of being the person who will jeopardise his welfare.
The two enforcement hearing battle plans I have laid out infront of me are:
1) Completely ignore everything she has said. Play it all down as being petty nonsense. Maintain the non-critical position and uphold that the CAO is good and continue to advocate for peaceful co-parenting.
2) Counter-claim her mental health allegations supported by proof of her anxiety disorder admission, backed-up with every piece of correspondence that highlights her extreme maladaptive personality.
I will never have peace with this woman. My son will never have the childhood he deserves. At what point does the Lives With and Spends Time With arrangement need to change?
She will never stick to this CAO without finding a reason to breach it. When will the court start to think about switching the Lives With and Spends Time With arrangement due to her hostility, refusal to comply, and obvious personality flaws?
Attempts to reason with her failed, and after 3 weeks of texting her to resolve and two missed contact dates, she told me not to contact her again, so I submitted a C79 application for an Enforcement Order.
The CAFCASS safeguarding report prior to the enforcement hearing has been an interesting read. A single paragraph from me explaining what happened on that day. Three pages and 10 paragraphs from the ex dragging up the past, present and somehow, seeing into the future!
Despite alleging that I have severe mental health issues and my son will not be safe in my care unless I undergo psychiatric treatment that the court must oversee!! She has admitted to CAFCASS as suffering from anxiety, but claims it is managed without the need for medication!
To use the hurt and distress that I experienced from being tormented on that day and being denied access to my son, as a means of labelling me mentally unstable to further justify denying me access to him, takes some fathoming. This is called gaslighting. The deception of a person’s memory, perception of reality or mental stability.
Studies have shown that gaslighting is more prevalent in people who have maladaptive personality traits such as those associated with short-term mental illness...like anxiety disorder!
So, the person with the mental illness, is accusing me of having a mental illness!! The person who is harming my sons welfare, is accusing me of being the person who will jeopardise his welfare.
The two enforcement hearing battle plans I have laid out infront of me are:
1) Completely ignore everything she has said. Play it all down as being petty nonsense. Maintain the non-critical position and uphold that the CAO is good and continue to advocate for peaceful co-parenting.
2) Counter-claim her mental health allegations supported by proof of her anxiety disorder admission, backed-up with every piece of correspondence that highlights her extreme maladaptive personality.
I will never have peace with this woman. My son will never have the childhood he deserves. At what point does the Lives With and Spends Time With arrangement need to change?
She will never stick to this CAO without finding a reason to breach it. When will the court start to think about switching the Lives With and Spends Time With arrangement due to her hostility, refusal to comply, and obvious personality flaws?
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