A change of child arrangements and I still don't know were my daughter lives

[Milajay24]

Hi all advice needed please
I have been separated from ex wife for over two years now, we agreed on a 50/50 but probably more likely 60/40 in her favour.
I have my daughter every other weekend from Saturday to Wednesday and and the alternate week Monday to Wednesday this has worked fairly well until recently. Unfortunately we are still going through the courts to reach financial settlement and recently she has bought a new house ,she refuses to tell me her place of residence so now I have to pick my daughter up from her office. there never has been a valid reason for this I have always been polite, never lost my temper although I have set boundaries that she is to never set foot in my house.
Recently I have just been taken on for work but it falls on a Friday evening and sometimes early Saturday
Now my ex has decided that she doesn't want our daughter on a Friday and that I should have her. The irony!!!
As much as I would love to take Friday evening off I have a good chance of losing my job, let alone losing out financially.
I have booked in for mediation meeting this week we can't reach an agreement what happens then?
Do I have the right to know were my daughter lives ?
I've gone through this with my solicitor but she advised me to deal with this after the FCO

 

[mva]

how old is your daughter

 

[Milajay24]

Twelve this coming January

 

[mva]

It odd that ex won’t tell you were she lives , if she’s claiming your a threat then surely you could be a threat at her office. Anyway it’s still her prerogative not to tell you and nothing you can do about it.

What happens during holiday periods, still handover at office ?

So it’s one extra Friday every fortnight that’s the issue. Have you got any family or friends that can cover ?

Have you asked work if you can be flexible. They surely won’t fire you for just asking. Most employers have a family friendly policy.

How close is your daughter’s school. She’s not to far away from being able to be alone in the house for just an eve.

In short I think there’s no point getting concern about finding out exes address.

I’d be trying to be as accommodating as possible and avoid going to family court over CAO. The fact that your ex and probably child what’s you to have more “contact” is a good think. There must be a way you could juggle child care for that Friday eve.